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^_^ Zeke kekeke lala~~ had this to say about Reading Rainbow:
That's being used for college. Which will assumedly get us both decent jobs which will assumedly make it possible.
Sounds more like at least four years, then.
--Satan, quoted by John Milton
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Roll the dice to see if Trillee is getting drunk!
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Trillee painfully thought these words up:
aw trill, that icon is so sad 
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`Doc wrote this stupid crap:
I see you opted for reading the summary, and yet missed the point anyhow. Since repeating it again won't come to any benefit, and I don't feel like resorting to namecalling, I'll just ask you to stop proving me right. As it stands, even if my interest in conflict did stem from and/or lead to "getting my rocks off", your current logic-free broken-record argument just wouldn't suffice. "It's been done before, so you must be wrong," does not constitute an intelligent counter-argument. Put down the textbook and start thinking. You're getting rusty at it.
Sorry, boy. I don't care what you think of me. No matter how long or how short you make them, your opinions will still be inferior, and not worthy of merit.
This is far too long, by the way. In the future, apes like you should really try to keep your words to short grunts and four-second sound bytes
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^_^ Zeke kekeke lala~~ painfully thought these words up:
That's being used for college. Which will assumedly get us both decent jobs which will assumedly make it possible.
I see lots of ass here. Just pointing out the obvious
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We were all impressed when Bloodsage wrote:
Sounds more like at least four years, then.
It's very possible, and also more likely, I'm just being hopeful that the odd thing will happen and a decent job will pick me up as I go through college.
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^_^ Zeke kekeke lala~~ had this to say about Matthew Broderick:
It's very possible, and also more likely, I'm just being hopeful that the odd thing will happen and a decent job will pick me up as I go through college.
Not likely.
You'll learn more, be less tired, and get better grades.
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^_^ Zeke kekeke lala~~ had this to say about (_|_):
We aren't getting married until we're financially secure. In all likelyhood that'll knock it back about 2 years, three if something screws up.
Hon, let me tell you about my case.
I'm 34 (the equivalent of both you AND your girlfriend in age [17 x 2]), and was due to be married 2 years ago (until fate intervened, but that's another long story that is of little relevance).
I am *STILL NOT* financially secure, even with a 17 year work history and a couple of minor Associated Degrees (obtained by correspondance) behind me. It is highly probably that I would not have been financially secure with my husband had the marriage happened 2 years ago (and he would have been the same age as me, and had FAR better college qualifications thatn I have).
You and your girlfreind want to get married because you're both convinced that each of you is "THE ONE" for you, hey that's dandy. Don't think I'm saying you can't get married. What I am saying is, think this through a little more. I highly doubt that 2-3 years of part-time work while you study at college (or worse, trying to combined full-time study with work) is going to make you "financially stable".
Maybe 5 years, minimum if you work your ass off, cut out every expense except for the most vital of vital things (food, study supplies, etc.. no movies, no computer games... no internet!), and save every single penny you can (even the ones you find in the street). Realistically, 10 years to be at a stable enough stage to be looking at living in something more than a single bedroom apartment.
If your marriage lasts 10 years, then hell I'll be the first one to stand up and say "Congratulations! Here, have a couple grand from me as my way of saying sorry for doubting you"..
..BUT..
..if it goes the way of the 8 other friends I know from my school days who married at your age, and all with the plan of doing college and being financially secure..
.. I still say you'll be lucky to make it 2 years (since none of them did).
Maybe I'm being harsh. I'm trying not to be. I'm trying simply to point out the realities of the situation here. Life is not as easy as you might think at 17. You might think you've had some rough shit in your life, and maybe you have. But believe me, it gets worse! I can tell you how much worse in private if you want to know, but it can (and does, and will) get worse than you can imagine at 17.
Zeke, all we are saying is you need to plan this a little more.
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^_^ Zeke kekeke lala~~'s fortune cookie read:
Always tired, never studied (Though that's going to be changing once I hit college most likely) and make straight A's
BAHAHAHAHAHA.
just...
BAHAHAHAHAHA.
Let's say each class you have is 3 cred hours.
A full tie load (to qualify for the scholarship you were talking about, you probably have to go full time) is 12-15 hours.
that's 15 hours a week. PLUS, in order to pull a b average, you hsould be pulling the amount of cred hours of studying for the class.
So... roughly 15 hours of studying. So you already have a 30 hour/wekk commitment.
Oh, and did you know, you have to pay taxes on that scholarship you keep going on about? And if you have two jobs, even if they are both only 20 hour/week, you have a 70 hour workweek - which does not include travel, sleeping, eating, etc. There are only ~180 hours/week.
If you think college is a cakewalk, think again. There is no teachers to hold your hand. I have one professor who just has us doing a chapter of the book a week. He doesn't go over it, he just collects the homework and gives us tests. Then, we have labs to do - and a paper to write. All for one class.
There's over 200 pages/chapter, some weeks. It only gets harder from there.
[ 02-16-2004: Message edited by: Stiddy ]
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Gikk thought this was the Ricky Martin Fan Club Forum and wrote:
I would -really- suggest not working more then part time in college unless you HAVE TOO.You'll learn more, be less tired, and get better grades.
What she said.
I used to think I didnt have to study too, Zeke. Sure, I was able to do half decent my first semester here at state collegE (A-, A-, B, B-) but that was only because I pulled grades up the second half by studying some. You may think you dont have to, but trust me. You DO have to.
WHY do you feel the need to rush into marriage? If she is for you, she'll be there in 5 years while you all date during college, and are able to ENJOY your time at college. Trust me, college is more than just school, there is a whole other culture to experience at college. Can't do that while working full time, having to study, having to go to class...everything.
Go to college. FOCUS on college. Get maybe a 5-10 hour a week job to make some side money. HAve a good time with your girlfriend. ENJOY LIFE. You won't really have as much of a wide open chance as this AGAIN to enjoy life to the fullest. You'll have 40 hour work weeks at least, if not more. you'll have many other things you need to do.
Don't mess it up by marrying early.
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From the book of Gikk, chapter 3, verse 16:
Oh, and did you know, you have to pay taxes on that scholarship you keep going on about? And if you have two jobs, even if they are both only 20 hour/week, you have a 70 hour workweek - which does not include travel, sleeping, eating, etc. There are only ~180 hours/week.
168 hours / Week.
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This one time, at ^_^ Zeke kekeke lala~~ camp:
That's being used for college. Which will assumedly get us both decent jobs which will assumedly make it possible.
Since you seem to take advice well, I'll give you a little more.
I'm not trying to poke holes in your life plans, but here is how it is.
Working and going to college is not easy. Its exhausting. I've worked every moment of my college life. When you do that, one suffers. You can't go through college at a regular pace while working to support yourself. You also will not find a "good job" that is going to work around you classes. I'll find a crappy or okay job, probably in food service or retail. Then it is going to come down to working late into the night at either because you can't work mornings, because you have class.
Now, you're still with your parents, thats good. You can save that tiny amount of money, assuming you're responsible enough. That is a start.
Get a dose of reality though. Ask your parents how much their gas bill is a month. Ask them how much their electric bill is a month. Ask them how much their water bill is. Their car payment. Their mortgage. Their insurance. Their garbage service. Ask them how much food is. Take all that, add it together. Then take your jobs, wage per hour x 40 (its a miracle if you can work 40 hours and go to school btw), add them together. See which total comes up bigger. Thats what being financially secure is.
Having a job and being financially secure are not the same thing. Only till recently did I become secure and even then, I was hurting around Christmas time when I had (yes had fewls!) to buy gifts for the people I love.
If your parents are buying, stay the heck in school. Don't work. Just get your degree. THEN get a good job and THEN get married.
Ferrel!
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^_^ Zeke kekeke lala~~ stopped beating up furries long enough to write:
Always tired, never studied (Though that's going to be changing once I hit college most likely) and make straight A's
And, with an attitude like that, you're about to be bitchslapped by reality.
--Satan, quoted by John Milton
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Bloodsage thought about the meaning of life:
And, with an attitude like that, you're about to be bitchslapped by reality.
And if he gets married now, most likely punched a few times, with the brass knuckles, too.
Lyinar Ka`Bael, Piney Fresh Druidess - Luclin
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Lyinar Ka`Bael had this to say about Captain Planet:
People have to pay for garbage service?
I do, my folks do. So yeah in some places. Maybe not everywhere.
Ferrel!
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Ferrel had this to say about Duck Tales:
I do, my folks do. So yeah in some places. Maybe not everywhere.
Weird. Handled by the city here.
Lyinar Ka`Bael, Piney Fresh Druidess - Luclin
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Over the mountain, in between the ups and downs, I ran into Lyinar Ka`Bael who doth quote:
[QB]Nothing wrong with marrying at 17, or 19, so long as you're sure about itQB]
YUR SURE ABOUT IGEVERYTHING AT 19!
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King Parcelan had this to say about Knight Rider:
Sorry, boy. If you try to follow Deth's act, you suffer the same fate. Nobody's going to read an attempt to overwhelm by sheer volume.Much like the rest of your attempts at anything, you fail this time.
While I might argue I haven't posted any almighty DethEssays lately, I find the irony that I didn't even read all of the post Parce's above comment was responding to rather amusing.
See? Age = Perspective, which leads to Wisdom.
I just don't like seeing people screwing with marriage. It's a lousy excuse to get away from your parents, it's a lousy excuse to get out of the life you're in now for something new and different (I could jab out my eyeballs if I wanted a new and exciting life to learn all the new rules to, but it doesn't make it a good idea), and it's only marginally better than getting some girl knocked up (in that you're only ruining your own lives if you do it early, rather than your own lives and a third party's).
It's not impossible to get it right and when you do the rewards are limitless. But you have to go into it with the right expectations. Nothing I've seen you say in this thread, Zeke, suggests you've got those right expectations set. Yes your plans could work out perfectly, but to get them to work you'd both be living on your nerves in close proximity to one another and that has a way of breaking people down.
And what's worse is that disillusioned, disenfranchised people who had what they consider a bad experience with marriage or whatnot are the selfsame morons who think that everything miraculously works out just because you have a plan. A plan is a very easy first step. The ones after it are the real bastards. They're the ones who made lame decisions and couldn't spin a relationship out longer than a year or two who want to have marriage be a term thing where you can re-up if you're interested. Love might be war, but marriage isn't the military. It's not a car lease either.
Whether it works out or not, it's something that you've done, and it will have repercussions for the rest of your life (or at least long enough to make it seem like the rest of your life).
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