Is sex something that should only occur between people in a relationship (married, dating, etc)?
Is sex an expression of love or something completely seperate?
Is putting limits on sex life (ie, not having sex with anyone but your s/o) really cheating yourself?
(We talk about really weird shit on night shift)
Personally, I am of the belief that sex is an expression of what I feel, and as such, only occurs with who I am dating. Limits on the sex life of myself and partner are strict by today's standards: if he has sex with someone other than me, he can consider himself single.
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Alidaneing:
Sex is what you make of it.
Pretty much.
Although I'd almost say that sex is invariably meaningful to women, I have seen examples to the contrary.
I doubt any two people feel the same about it or that there's even anything close to a "general consensus"
I've always veiwed it as a casual thing - it CAN be an expression of love, but so can grilled cheese sandwiches (an actual expression of love in my relationship; fear for me). Because I'm horny/pretty uncaring about sex, I believe in open relationships (they can work, though you NEED to be honest and demand the same), but also know they aren't for everyone and there are people who might want to be posessive with my boobies (god knows why).
Those things are issues of personal preference and not morality though (as long as everything is honest and consentual), if someone wants to orient their sex life by the phases of the moon, rotate partners between even and odd months, spend every saturday as the centerpiece of a bukkake gangbang or share their wife with all their friends it's purely their own business.
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ACES! Another post by Azizza:
At it's core sex is just sex. It is no different for humans than it is for a dog, a basic function of survival like breathing or taking a piss.
thats hot
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Azizza attempted to be funny by writing:
At it's core sex is just sex. It is no different for humans than it is for a dog, a basic function of survival like breathing or taking a piss. However for whatever reason we have attached much more importance to sex than most other things. Perhaps there is something hard wired into many of us that causes us to become attached to sexual partners, or perhaps this is just a result of society and it's values being so ingrained into us that we can't escape them. I don't know. But the pure act of sex is just a basic thing we use to reproduce and feel pleasure.
My opinion it is more a Social stigmata. Monogamy is not genetic (humans). Spreading "the seed" will always be a beast within.
It's not something people hear about.
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And I was all like 'Oh yeah?' and Mr. Gainsborough was all like:
thats hot
Can you make a post that actually contributes to the subject?
Anyways, on topic, I personally believe sex is what you and your partner agree it is. I, personally, am in a commited relationship and have been for 4 years and we have agreed to wait on having sex until we are married (which is whenever I can afford a good ring ect). I don't try to say that this is the *right* thing to do but, for my relationship, it is what we agreed on. I believe other couples have their own perogative to do whatever they want in regards to sex, and I believe all ways can work (be it open relationships, sex on the first date, ect).
It boils down to whatever you and your partner agree on is what works. Anything can, but there's probably only one that does for your specific relationship.
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From the book of Monica, chapter 3, verse 16:
I believe in monogamy... I'm a very jealous person...
Let's find some more people and form a club. We can pool our money and rent a bowling alley to nervously pace around on when our s/os are out somewhere.
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Yuri's fortune cookie read:
Can you make a post that actually contributes to the subject?
Nope. 
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When the babel fish was in place, it was apparent Mod said:
Let's find some more people and form a club. We can pool our money and rent a bowling alley to nervously pace around on when our s/os are out somewhere.
Well I mean like... I'm not THAT bad... I would definitely say that I have that capacity, though.
I actually don't have a SO right now, but I am kinda-sorta seeing someone... and we have both agreed that we are not exclusive at this point, and we are just kind of seeing where things take us, getting to know each other, that sort of thing. BUT he was also upfront and admitted that there are a few other girls who have taken an interest in him as well. So when he is sending me text messages flirting with me all the time, I'm just kinda like "OMG is he saying that to her too!?"
And like... it's weird... I mean, I know I'm going to get him, but technically I haven't yet and that probably won't become official for a bit longer... so in the meantime I'm just fretting on whether or not he's this much of a flirt with his other "potential interests" as well and I just want to be like, "If you're not saying that stuff to me exclusively, then I don't want to hear it!!!!!!!"
Probably why I'm still a virgin at 34. :/
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From the Book of Armaments, Bacon369 did read;
You can pay for a totally monogamous, mutually exclusive one night relationship .
I could go down to Chippewa street with a twenty dollar bill and a vial of penicillin if all I wanted was the sex. 
I also would not be comfortable having sex just for the sake of having sex (as many people seem to be doing now) and changing partners more than you change your skivvies. If I am going to open myself up and show a vulnerable side of myself to someone, I want to know them well.
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Azakias had this to say about Reading Rainbow:
Sex!
plz
and as for monogamy - if I'm in a relationship, then that is the only person I have eyes for, and to be honest, I expect the same. I'm kinda like monica, jealousy-wise.
I also have no significant other at the moment, but not for lack of trying.
sadf.
Well let's start with the basics. Do you need sexual intercourse with another person? No. You can expunge the sexual desire with masturbation. Part of the stigma about being an X year old virgin lies with the fact that by adulthood, most people have had an experience so it's a common denominator. In some cultures (mostly old backwater social notions) you have to have sex to be an adult, but frankly that doesn't apply anymore.
Sex is one of those things where you shouldn't get into a relationship just to slake your lust. You have to be honest with yourself about sex, which is probably why a lot of people end up in bad shape with relationships. If you just want a safe, reliable sex partner, you can make that sort of arrangement these days. No emotional tangles, no mistakes about attachment. Clinginess, proprietary assumptions about another person, while occasionally charming, aren't healthy. There's a thin line between flirtatious possessiveness and serious possessiveness. Flirtatious is okay, but serious is not okay. It leads down a bad path.
On the flip side, can you have a longterm relationship without sex? yes. But to have a healthy relationship you have to know who you are and how you get by in life without the other person. You have to be able to function on your own. Which brings us back to point A. You have to accept the fact you can function without sexual intercourse with another person. You don't, in other words, rely on your relationship partner for sex. That's just healthy in general. It's not a good idea to be so obsessed with sex that someone controlling the flow of booty puts you in a bad position.
For instance: I'm not with Lyinar just because I'm a lech who's found his ideal form of eye candy. She does not hold sex over my head like a bone. Nor do I obsess over the idea of sex constantly. If I don't get my regular output level of sex, I know I can handle it myself if the urge arises.
The advantage of that sort of mentality is that you're not bringing your sexual hangups into the relationship. Sex is a part of a relationship. But it shouldn't be the lens by which the rest of the relationship is judged. If you and your SO are arguing over something unrelated to sex or the like, being pissed off because you're not getting enough orgasms isn't a good thing.
Of course, if you're angry because you're not getting off with your partner, that's a problem too. That's the other thing. You have to be able to be open with your partner(s). Some people frankly don't like doing the same things as others. Everyone, and I mean everyone has personal preferences. No exceptions. Some people like receiving oral. Some don't. Some love performing oral or getting banged in the bum. Some don't. Point being you have to be able to tell your partner when you do or do not think something in particular is working for you. I think people having sex who aren't ready to talk about sex are just hurting themselves. Especially people in relationships. You love and trust this person implicitly but you can't tell them you like getting it in the pooper now and then? Yeesh.
sigpic courtesy of This Guy, original modified by me
It's not something people hear about.
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Sean startled the peaceful upland Gorillas by blurting:
You know that not a single person will read that, right?
Actually, it's got some pretty damned funny double-entendres, like this gem:
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If I don't get my regular output level of sex, I know I can handle it myself if the urge arises.
I mean, how funny is, "If she won't give me sex, I'll handle it myself"? 
--Satan, quoted by John Milton
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The logic train ran off the tracks when Bloodsage said:
I mean, how funny is, "If she won't give me sex, I'll handle it myself"?
Comedy Gold.
Some people are like Slinkys... Not really good for anything, But they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down a flight of stairs.
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Bloodsage had this to say about Reading Rainbow:
I mean, how funny is, "If she won't give me sex, I'll handle it myself"?
That sort of thing was intentional. I can and will. The idea that you can't get by without someone else involved is kinda silly. It's much nicer with someone else involved, but not to the point where I'd be willing to give over control of the relationship in the name of getting it on.
sigpic courtesy of This Guy, original modified by me
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Sean thought about the meaning of life:
You know that not a single person will read that, right?
You know that you are wrong, right?
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Ja'Deth Issar Ka'bael enlisted the help of an infinite number of monkeys to write:
That sort of thing was intentional. I can and will. The idea that you can't get by without someone else involved is kinda silly.
It's much nicer with someone else involved, but not to the point where I'd be willing to give over control of the relationship in the name of getting it on.
Control?
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A sleep deprived Bacon369 stammered:
Control?
You know control...
Like the European Grip... that takes control...
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Tarquinn had this to say about Matthew Broderick:
You know that you are wrong, right?
You know that left is right, right?
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Mr. Parcelan got all f'ed up on Angel Dust and wrote:
You know that left is right, right?
only in the military
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Mr. Parcelan thought about the meaning of life:
You know that left is right, right?
Only in America.
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Tarquinn had this to say about Optimus Prime:
Only in America.
The world is America.
