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The Body Snatchers version of Drysart wrote this:
sex
Sure, it's all fun and games until you get the clap!
Under capitalism, man exploits man. Under communism, it's just the opposite. - John Kenneth Galbraith
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Everyone wondered WTF when Absolut Blindy wrote:
the man should pay for the first three dates. After that, it is no longer rude for the woman to offer.Let me rephrase that.
The woman can offer whenever she wants, but durring the first three dates, the man is well within the realm of politeness to refuse. After three dates, it's rude to turn down an offer like that.
That's pretty much solid.
Obviously, you can't expect the man to pay for every meal the couple ever attends, and at some point there has to be some give and take on money issues. But for the first few dates, ya, the guy should pick up the tab.
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Palador ChibiDragon had this to say about Tron:
On the hand first. It has emotion AND class.
I did that with Nikki on our first date, she smiled and kissed me, stepped back, blushed a WHOLE lot, then smiled, stepped inside and told me to call her.
Lessee...about 2.5 years later...
We're still together
I'm such a sloooooooooooot! 
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There was much rejoicing when Callalron said this:
Hell, I've gone waaaay past kissing on a first date.I'm such a sloooooooooooot!
OMG WHORE
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Callalron thought this was the Ricky Martin Fan Club Forum and wrote:
Hell, I've gone waaaay past kissing on a first date.I'm such a sloooooooooooot!
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This one time, at Drysart camp:
sex
I've known that to happen once or twice on first dates....
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Not Trent spewed forth this undeniable truth:
Yeah.It's a kiss, not like a full blown make out heavy petting hump your leg thing...
Is it?
I'm under the impression it always leads to that... >.>
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I've also greeted my date with a kiss on the hand, which goes off very well if you don't rush it.
For the money issue, if he asked you out, he's willing and capable of paying for both of you. If you asked him out, he should be prepared to pay for both, but only required to pay for himself.
The three dates rule applies generally throughout the entire datinc scene, just the rules change a little... In highschool, an open mouthed kiss is expected by the third date. In college that graduates to an orgasm, and after college, it's sex. (not always applicable, but it generally holds)
As for whether you should kiss on your date, I'd suggest letting him get snuggly around the 3/4 mark, and guage from there. If, nearing the end of the date, you're both not comfortable with eachother physically, and not interested in eachother, you'll be able to tell by the way you feel with his arms around you. Feel safe and happy? he probably does too, and that's a good thing. Feel a little uncomfortable, and like you're too close? maybe it's a good night for a handshake or a hug... Feel yourself getting a little wet and your nipples crinkled and feel a warm bulge pressing up against you? stop off at a drug store on the way home.
I've just found that cuddling tells a LOT about how two people feel about eachother.
No, Really. Bite me.
Can't blame her, she doesn't like war movies so she had to do something. Just let things go where they will. If you're gonna swap spit, it will happen. Just make sure that's all that happens though. We know what teenage boys thing... some of us were one at some point. 
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/dev/null had this to say about Reading Rainbow:
I had Tears of the Sun basically ruined because Gikk would have rather spent the time smooching than watching.Can't blame her, she doesn't like war movies so she had to do something.
Just let things go where they will. If you're gonna swap spit, it will happen. Just make sure that's all that happens though.
Some of us have never been teenage boys!
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Verily, sepia doth proclaim:
Some of us have never been teenage boys!
And besides, these "rules" everyone is quoting are not really "rules" at all, as everyone is different and there is a wide range of thoughts on matters like this.
I did not kiss my now-fiancee for the first five months of our relationship.
I would recommend you take it really, really slowly if this is your first date. If the guys worth it he can wait for a kiss -- it's just a kiss, after all, but for you it would be the first and therefore too special to simply waste.
Thinking about your posts
(and billing you for it) since 2001
I might kiss on the cheek on the first date.
It's mostly situational, though.
Of course, I have the credibility of a drunken hobo. 
And on the subject of paying -- my brother's girlfriend frequently pays for stuff, they are great together. He always has as much money on him that he can (though his job has screwed him and not paid him since he started). He doesnt like it all the time though...and some guys DO feel uncomfortable with that...
But, well...I wouldnt. IF the woman wants to pay, by all means
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Falaanla Marr said:
I have no idea because I have never been on a date. I probably would, though. Dont see why not.
Indeed.
Pity us dateless people.
If anything, it makes your intentions clear to the other person. If they are interested, this is a sure fire way to know. If they pull away, you know you dont have to waste anymore time chasing something that doesn't want you.
Doesn't have to be anything big, just a small kiss does the trick. If you get something more outta that, well...then the person is very interested
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Mortious thought about the meaning of life:
Indeed.Pity us dateless people.
<coughs at Mort> You had so many chances to ask that blonde secretary out awhile back.
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We all got dumber when Vobo said:
Wait, and how's your love life been?
Good? I can't complain really. Dating someone new now. I won't get into details because no one wants to hear it.
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If only White Mage hadn't said this:
What are you, retarded? Or did you read that in some "Miss Manners" column in the saturday paper? Things such as that depend completely on the two people involved, and thats it.however, if the dude shows up broke, I dont reccomend dating him again. I had a friend whos worst date started with "Well, I got enough money to buy ME a Crystal Burger, howsabout you?"
No, I assure you I'm not retarded. You can do whatever you damn well please, of course, but what I said is the way most people think.
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Check out the big brain on Nwizzle Fo' Shizzle!
Done it before and I'll do it again.
however, even if this was the case, we ended up kissing soon after. dont be nervous about it...you know that if you end the date without kissing this guy and you wanted to you'll be mad at yourself for not making the move yourself. if the two of you like each other enough to go on a date together, you shouldn't worry about him not wanting to kiss you.
you'll know the moment, and if he doesnt make a move (its always out of his own nervousness) then go for it yourself...i did only cause i knew id regret it later...remember, even if you don't kiss tonight then its likely you will soon anyways..so don't feel like you have to if you don't "feel the moment"
most importantly..
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HAVE AN AWESOME TIME
I don't see any reason not to if you both want to. Its a sure sign of compassion and the fact that you want to be with them.
But let me tell you this... DDR is FUN!!
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Alleria Qui'farush had this to say about Matthew Broderick:But let me tell you this... DDR is FUN!!
Oh, god, NOOOO! Not you, too!
Just playin'.
Glad you had a great time.
Should've said something, but I've said it enough
By the way my words were faded
Rather waste some time with you...
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Savannah / Emily's account was hax0red to write:
Oh, god, NOOOO! Not you, too!
Just playin'.
Glad you had a great time.
I swear, I'll have you play if I have to strap you to the machine.
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Mr Gainsborough had this to say about Duck Tales:
I have kissed on my first date with 2 girlfriends.I don't see any reason not to if you both want to. Its a sure sign of compassion and the fact that you want to be with them.
thats sad, sexay stud magnets like me mrot and fal are aall perma=dateless yet mr. gainsbrorugh, withall his aris obsesiosna dn otherwise oddness is a total ladies amn ;.;
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Mog had this to say about dark elf butts:
thats sad, sexay stud magnets like me mrot and fal are aall perma=dateless yet mr. gainsbrorugh, withall his aris obsesiosna dn otherwise oddness is a total ladies amn ;.;
Stud Magnets...so you attract Big Manly Gay Guys then?
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Katrinity got all f'ed up on Angel Dust and wrote:
Stud Magnets...so you attract Big Manly Gay Guys then?
Niope, metal studs, i just walk up t to soemene and be all "hi" adn they be all "h" adn then im all OMG OW" and their all "oh shit, you ahvea a metal studs imapled in yoru face" adn im all "ya.....gravity"
DONT MCOK MY SERIOSU MEDICAL CONDITION!
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Mog had this to say about pies:
Niope, metal studs, i just walk up t to soemene and be all "hi" adn they be all "h" adn then im all OMG OW" and their all "oh shit, you ahvea a metal studs imapled in yoru face" adn im all "ya.....gravity"
DONT MCOK MY SERIOSU MEDICAL CONDITION!
<gives Mog a cookie> Not mocking. Just thought you meant Chick Magnet there. ^.^
