I ask because any time I've revealed to a girl that I really liked her a lot, the response seems positive but the results have been reliably negative (ie. THE FRIEND LINE).
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Maradon! had this to say about Pirotess:
Girls: Does it mean anything for a guy to be totally crazy for you? Or is it more of an annoyance? How do you respond to guys who confess an infatuation?I ask because any time I've revealed to a girl that I really liked her a lot, the response seems positive but the results have been reliably negative (ie. THE FRIEND LINE).
Depends on what my feelings are for the guy. It's flattering to be liked (hence the positive response) but it's annoying when I don't share the same feelings for the guy(the negative factor).
Basically, when you are confessing an infatuation with someone, you will find that they are meeting some need of yours. They're attractive, funny, whatever... just have to keep looking til you find people who find their needs being met by you (without you compromising who you are).
Then see where it goes from there... *shrugs*
If you want her to then become obsessed with you, close it.
Ah, the wisdom of Jim Profitt.
Sorry about the bitterness, but at least it's soaked in cynicism.
The 'Hey.. I like you' is spiffy. 
I've never had anyone IRL approach me but the freaky kind, but... I would amazingly flattered.
The freaky guys stared at me all the time. It was scary. 
Obviously, telling her you're obsessed is too strong. Saying "I kinda like you. A lot." might seem like an understatement, but it might be just the right thing she's looking to hear.
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Trillee stumbled drunkenly to the keyboard and typed:
Mostly, wonder why on earth they'ed be infatuated with me.
Telling her is one thing, what you do afterward is totally different. Like the girls above me have said.. if you come on too strange you cross that line into stalker. And where it is nice to be complimented and the such on a daily basis.. when you just don't get the hint that you have gone overboard it becomes annoying. Then we start to ignore you.
But overall.. if a guy would say that.. I think it would be amazing. Jajahotep fucked around with this message on 04-29-2004 at 01:26 PM.
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Mortious had this to say about pies:
Kat shoves a cookie in my mouth every time I say that to her. I think she just tries to shut me up.
Nuttin' but 
, Mortay. ^.^
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Blindying:
Dude, even if you tell a girl that you like her and she gives you a positive responce, you STILL have to make the first move 99% of the time. Just try kissing her sometime.
Following Drysart's old advice to "do more things that would get you smacked" seems to have mostly resulted in me getting smacked.
So in conclusion 
, it is best to say you like the girl and find out she does not like you that way in return, rather than hanging on and hoping she one day pops up and goes 'OMG !'
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Maradon! enlisted the help of an infinite number of monkeys to write:
Following Drysart's old advice to "do more things that would get you smacked" seems to have mostly resulted in me getting smacked.
Regardless, it is a very effective means of figuring out if the girl likes you or not. If you get smacked or the "lets just be friends" bullshit, then you know you aren't wasting your time on a lost cause, and you still got a kiss out of the deal.
Saves a lot of time and money that way.
If she's responded favorably to you then go for it.
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Katrinity wrote:
Nuttin' but, Mortay. ^.^
^__________________^
I wonder how often that works for what percentage of the male population. My guess is "not often" and "not much".
Do you know the women in question? Someone the lady in question knows (and more importantly trusts) is much more likely to be successful in getting the all-important first date than some guy in aviator goggles walking up and making amusing facial expressions at her before saying "'alo! I am Maradonnio, you will date with me!" or whatever.
So:
1. Know the enemy (no surprise attacks from Maradonistan!)
2. Be casual for as long as you can (desperation is blood in the water; some people will turn into ravenous man-eating monsters, some will be VERY disturbed and get out of the pool)
3. When you do let it slip, do it romantically. Not too overly romantic. Just let it go. It's a bit like farting. If you rip one loose in the middle of church and start going "WHEEE DOGGY THAT WAS A *GOOD* ONE!" you don't get good marks, right? Right. You want to be smooth.
4. If it doesn't work, let it roll off. Don't act mortally wounded. When you're kicked in the nuts, the wounded puppy act never works. Laugh it off and move on.
sigpic courtesy of This Guy, original modified by me
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Led had this to say about Captain Planet:
Making that first step is great. Most of the guys that bitch about 'They always say I am just a friend!' never actually make that move. Then again, I have had the opposite happen to me... occasionally idiots just come up and take a grab, thinking that will get my attention or something.So in conclusion
, it is best to say you like the girl and find out she does not like you that way in return, rather than hanging on and hoping she one day pops up and goes 'OMG
I agree with this.
BTW.... I LOVE YOUR AVATAR!!! *drools at Iria pic*
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Check out the big brain on Led!
Just bought the entire boxset the other day ^-^
Where?!?!?!
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This insanity brought to you by Lenlalron Flameblaster:
just ask her out already razor > : (
Have already gone out, non-mutual feelings. end.
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This one time, at Maradon! camp:
I ask because any time I've revealed to a girl that I really liked her a lot, the response seems positive but the results have been reliably negative (ie. THE FRIEND LINE).
Isn't that a bitch?
I've never understood the whole friend thing either. I'm forced to come to one of two conclusions about girls who use the friend line.
A) The lady in question is obviously a vapid, unintelligent prat, who doesn't make the logical connection between your actions and your intentions.
or
B) She's a total bitch, and appreciates the things like free lunches and wants to milk the whole thing for as long as possible.
I suppose she could just want to spend time together without the whole macking thing, too, but... nah.
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Arttemis's account was hax0red to write:
I suppose she could just want to spend time together without the whole macking thing, too, but... nah.
I know you're bitter, Artt, but I told you, I'm saving myself for the gay marriage law change,
It's not something people hear about.
don't confess an infatuation, confess to a crush... infatuations are scary
Generally, girls tend to take it better if a guy is like "Hey, you know, I like you, want to go out on a date or something?" rather than "omg I like you date me please I need you" (kinda like what deth said about farting in church )
but that's just my advice. ^_^ You have tons here to help you already, I'm just adding my two cents.
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When the babel fish was in place, it was apparent Arttemis said:
I've never understood the whole friend thing either. I'm forced to come to one of two conclusions about girls who use the friend line.A) The lady in question is obviously a vapid, unintelligent prat, who doesn't make the logical connection between your actions and your intentions.
or
B) She's a total bitch, and appreciates the things like free lunches and wants to milk the whole thing for as long as possible.
I suppose she could just want to spend time together without the whole macking thing, too, but... nah.
It sucks being the one guy in school who knows more about your friend's girlfriends than they know. I was the poor dork they'd talk to, cry to, rant to, and all the other shit... up to and including the discussions over that that's 110% female *only*. I got reviews of tampons, female hygene products, mastubatory aids... everything.
All things considered, HS wasn't too awful, as long as I didn't have to attend class....
Whenever the girl comes 'round to weep about it, all I say is: "Sorry, I'm not going to be that guy" and leave.
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Mr. Parcelan's unholy Backstreet Boys obsession manifested in:
Whenever the girl comes 'round to weep about it, all I say is: "Sorry, I'm not going to be that guy" and leave.
to be honest, that would make me cry harder, I think.
O_O
that's horrible
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BeauChan had this to say about Matthew Broderick:
to be honest, that would make me cry harder, I think.O_O
that's horrible
And that's why we're not dating
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Mr. Parcelan spewed forth this undeniable truth:
And that's why we're not dating
"Don't want to sound like a fanboy, but I am with you. I'll buy it for sure, it's just a matter of for how long I will be playing it..."
- Silvast, Battle.net forums
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BeauChaning:
that's horrible
That is horrible, and that's why I think it's fantastic advice.
The reason the girl is crying in the first place is because she started dating a horrible guy. Maybe if I'm horrible too, I'll actually get to be next instead of getting to be "The Shoulder" while all the horrible guys get laid.
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Maradon! impressed everyone with:
That is horrible, and that's why I think it's fantastic advice.The reason the girl is crying in the first place is because she started dating a horrible guy. Maybe if I'm horrible too, I'll actually get to be next instead of getting to be "The Shoulder" while all the horrible guys get laid.
Well, it's a good way to get laid, sure, but it's also not about becoming "one of the girls."
Let them talk to one of their girlfriends about it. Once you become "The Shoulder" you're branded for life.
"Don't want to sound like a fanboy, but I am with you. I'll buy it for sure, it's just a matter of for how long I will be playing it..."
- Silvast, Battle.net forums
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Mr. Parcelan was naked while typing this:
Well, it's a good way to get laid, sure, but it's also not about becoming "one of the girls."Let them talk to one of their girlfriends about it. Once you become "The Shoulder" you're branded for life.
*Cries all over Parcelan's shoulder*
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Led had this to say about Cuba:
*Cries all over Parcelan's shoulder*
*lifts Led's head off his shoulder and quietly slinks away, letting her collapse to the ground*
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When the babel fish was in place, it was apparent Mr. Parcelan said:
Once you become "The Shoulder" you're branded for life.
You're right. Heaven forbid you stop for a second to be "bad" to show some compassion and feeling to someone going through a bad time! Nina fucked around with this message on 04-30-2004 at 12:49 AM.
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The logic train ran off the tracks when Nina said:
You're right. Heaven forbid you stop for a second to be "bad" to show some compassion and feeling to someone going through a bad time!
If it happened for only a second, that would be one thing, but inexplicably, if you do it for one girl, you'll have to do it for all the girls.
It's largely pointless and self-degrading, anyways. Usually, the girl will come to cry to you about her abusive boyfriend. You offer your compassion, your sympathy and your wisdom, and then she goes right back to him. I don't believe in encouraging that sort of destructive behavior; it's unproductive.
And if you want to continue this discussion, you might want to not try being a wiseass. I've resisted a good portion of my instincts to say some nasty stuff here.
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And I was all like 'Oh yeah?' and Nina was all like:
You're right. Heaven forbid you stop for a second to be "bad" to show some compassion and feeling to someone going through a bad time!
Heaven forbid you don't want to be just "The Shoulder" for the rest of your life.
