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CBTao had this to say about dark elf butts:
Actually a really good place to go is Barnes and Noble, I've gone to the local one here in columbia and its become the singles bar for intellectual people. The only problem is that most of the girls there are SUPER FUCKING HOT college girls, who are also intellectual. They're looking for a geek to catch, the problem is every geek is thoroughly intimidated by them and won't initiate conversation.Quite comical really.
Thanks to CBTao, here, tomorrow I'm going out to my local bookstore.
And that's what you have to do, Mightion. You're a great guy. A little naieve at times, but good at heart. But nobody's going to give a shit about that if you don't go out and let them know you. Nobody's going to know what a good husband you could be if you don't go out.
The world's a scary place. And you ARE going to get burned by a lot more women, I can garuntee you that. But you're not going to get anything at all if you sit at home all day.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
the book store is a good idea too. start hanging out there
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I seem to have a problem when a chick asks me what I think of her looks.I just met a gal and I started to flirt with her when she asked me what I think about her looks. I started to think, "If I tell her she looks good shell get overconfident, and I will lose control because she'll know that I'm hot for her. If I tell her that she doesn't look good, she will get frustrated and I will lose my opportunity with her."
This girl kept insisting on an answer. So I finally told her that she looks good and I like her personality. Afterwards, I thought about this and couldn't figure out what I should have said so that I wouldn't be like all the other guys. What would have been the best answer?
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Well, you were right when you realized that if you told her what you were thinking she'd get overconfident. You also understood that all the other guys are probably falling all over themselves telling her how beautiful she is, and how she must be a model ...
Choke ... gag.... barf ...
Let's work this one out.
When you gave in and told her because she insisted," you lost all the mystery you had with her.
You WANT her wondering if youre interested in her. You WANT her frustrated, because frustration = sexual tension. Trust me, a woman doesn't walk away from a guy just because she can't get the information she wants. In fact, its just the opposite. We'll stick around longer just to find out.
What would have happened if you hadn't told her?
Would she have said, "You know, since you didn't tell me, I dont want to see you anymore"?
Nope.
By not giving in, you get her MORE interested in seeing you. You jack up the challenge and mystery a notch.
And don't give me that wimpy crap about "she insisted."
Heres what youre really saying: "I didn't have the self-control, and I figured that if I didn't tell her what she wanted to know, she wouldn't approve of me anymore. And because I didn't want to risk having an attractive woman mad at me, I gave in and told her."
Your first step should have been to TEASE her about her looks. If she wants to know, then she is uncertain about what you think of her (i.e., INSECURE) and she's looking for validation. Women are always insecure about their appearance.
Next time, try this:
"Since you're not a hunchback, and you haven't scared away the bartender, I'll let you hang out with me a little longer."
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"Are you fishing for a compliment? Wow, you must REALLY dig me."
Now the best answer would have been NO answer at all. What you do is deflect her question.
"What, are you insecure or something? Are you worried that I won't like you anymore?" (With a hint of a smile.)
There. You just laid all the cards out on the table and basically exposed the REAL issue: her insecurity and need for approval.
Trust me, if you dodge the questions effectively (meaning that you don't seem like you're a wimp), she will eventually back down. She'll realize that she's not going to get her way. And shell be even more attracted. Illogical, but true.
It's been my experience that most guys don't have the willpower to resist telling a woman what they're thinking, and WE KNOW THIS. It's one of our tests.
When a woman wants to know something and you don't want to tell her, you have to be willing to resist her, and also be ready in advance for any repercussions. You can't play in this game if you don't have the guts to back it up. If the thought of her getting mad at you is more than you can bear, just take out your balls and hand them over to her right now. Youre through, pal.
from some e-mail i started to get out of the blue
