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When the babel fish was in place, it was apparent Lyinar Ka`Bael said:Yes, as he said, he could put Len on ignore. But he also does have a point that more than one person does this sort of thing. I know a certain holy paladin of light who doesn't listen to advice, either, yet still expects those around him to want to hear all about what's still wrong, when he doesn't bother to work at fixing it.
I'm not convinced it was necessary to mention that, Lyinar, though honestly I can't say that's totally inaccurate.
I won't lie and say everything has been perfect, far from it, in my relationship with Amanda - heck, we still can't make plans to meet, no matter how much we both want to. You brought up this point to me before, and instilled upon me the need to know the whole situation.
Time and time again, its turned out that what my imagination "knows" is happening with her is different than what actually is happening. That's why I don't talk about it much lately... my "perceptions" are often wrong.
The problem is my perceptions are distored at times by my lingering insecurities - at times I feel that I oh-so-close to Amanda cutting me loose and me never hearing from her again, even though I have documented evidence that she's not like that in the slightest. I'm teaching myself to take comfort in the base truths in times of doubt, and that's reduced my need to "Whine" quite considerably.
I also don't talk about her much because I knew how annoying it can be to offer advice and not have people take it, so I try to share only the good news. 
You don't. They'll find you. If you go out and look for a girlfriend, you're not going to find one. What's your hurry anyway? Enjoy life, smell the roses, don't stress the small stuff. If you're happy with yourself, you'll be confident in yourself. If you're confident in yourself, things will work themselves out. But for the love of Innoruuk, don't whine about it. Women don't like a whiny baby.
There's no specific advice anyone can give you on how to "impress" women, other than the standard stuff of being clean and well-groomed, because women are like snowflakes: every one is different. Some like big strong muscular guys. Some like scrawny intelligent guys. Some like guys that beat them and treat them like shit. Some like guys that can make them laugh. Some like women instead. One will like you for you, and that's the one you want. You definately do not want one that you're constantly performing for -- and if you have to "impress" them in the first place, you're already starting the performance. Don't.
If all else fails, start an Internet comic strip. That works every time.
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Drysart had this to say about pies:
The truth about finding women:You don't. They'll find you. If you go out and look for a girlfriend, you're not going to find one. What's your hurry anyway? Enjoy life, smell the roses, don't stress the small stuff. If you're happy with yourself, you'll be confident in yourself. If you're confident in yourself, things will work themselves out.
Of course this is obvious.
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Of course it helps alot to hang out in places where women may actually find you.
So spending your weekends monitoring some message board isn't the wisest thing to do.Of course this is obvious.
I have it on good authority that women absolutely love subscribers.
But I'm basically going with everyone else's advise, but if you want a chick to get a glimpse at you, look and BE clean. Everyone likes a man who knows how to be clean. It will make women more comfortable around you. Wearing cologne also helps a woman become attracted to you. If you pass a chick that sees right through you in the hallway at school, but catches your smell, she'll look back and see who it is. Smelling good is always a plus.
Now there are girls who actually go for what's on the inside. It may seem impossible for women to be that way, but believe me, they're out there. I've had only two boyfriends. Neither of them were cute. But why did I like them? They've treated me with respect, and tolerated my beliefs, values, and opinions. They are a rare species called "Gentlemen". That's why. Be a gentlemen. Open the door for the ladies. Say "Please" and "Thank you", and when women are in your presence, stop whatever annoying teenage boy thing you're doing and say "Hello", adding a smile. They might think you're classy and probably will walk up to you and start a conversation. Men who usually say "Damn woman! You lookin' fiiiiiiine." just makes the girl giggle and walk away, or maybe the complete opposite and say "YOU PERVERT!" with a slap across the face.
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So basically be clean, and be a gentleman. It will help in the long run.
So set a goal. Don't make it "find a girlfriend". Make it, "find someone else who enjoys doing things that I enjoy doing also". Having someone who's only "omg hot hot" will get stale, especially considering your views of pre-marital sex (Note: not bashing it, just taking it into consideration).
As an exercise, try writing down your hobbies.
Then write down your beliefs about relationships, etc.
Next time you and a girl are having an intimate conversation, communicate what you are looking for. Show them the real you. Be yourself.
And relax and have fun =) In the end, being happy is all that matters.
