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Bloodsage wrote, obviously thinking too hard:
I saw your post, but how do I know you know how old he is? Was just seeking confermation, bish.

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At your age, I certainly wouldn't recommend swearing off girls--unless you naturally swing that way, of course--but your current "if it happens, great, if not, cool" attitude is perfectly okay.

It is important, however, to begin learning the social niceties involved in relationships with girls. You certainly don't want to be 25, and have the social skill of a 16-year-old!

It won't always work, but start learning the fine art of putting your hormones in their place, and letting your brain direct relationships.

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Jens is wrong. I'm 17.

And that's what I'm talking about. I need to have the social skills, per se, to succeed.

I mean, y'know, I'm not bad with talking, just not good...and I tend to make a fool of myself.

Plus, I have trouble identifying. I kinda had to accept this once I dove into the geek sub-culture.

It's all weird. Sometimes it seems I have insurmountable odds, or at least very big ones.

Anyways, Lenny, changing is not the answer. Nor is "do your own thing and it'll happen". No sir.

"What is the answer, O Great Prairie Dog?" you may ask.

Find a healthy medium.

So, you're too shy, you say? Well, you don't want to become a total party animal with a basket on your head reciting "God Save the Queen". But, you do want to become more social.

Start slowly. If your friends want to hang out on Friday, go with 'em. Eventually, start going to parties, and evolve socially. You won't meet anyone in the comfort of your own home.

And I agree wholeheartedly to be open to new experiences. That's one thing that will help you.

Just find a nice balance, and you'll be cool

Dealing with breakups, the first relationship I've ever had was something I considered serious, seeing as I had never broken up before, the aftermath left me broken for 2-3 months.

Not getting carried away, something that you have to practice to be able to do. Stay level-headed, even if everything seems great/miserable/whatever.

Control that damned jealosy. This thing ruined two relationships for me, and is currently about to cost me a thrid. Don't be a sheep, but don't go around getting into a fight with everyone who asks her what time it is.