-Have you ever been present for the death/funerary ritual of a loved one, at which others were present to whom the deceased was also a loved one?
-Did the others present display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree (i.e. crying)?
-Did you display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree?
-If so, do you believe this was due to the event itself, or to the reactions of the others present?
I appreciate your responses.
I couldn't hold it together at all. I cried the whole time. I cried harder when other people cried too, especially people that I had never before see shed tears.
The whole experience was one of the heartbreaking things I have ever been through.
2) Everyone was crying their eyes out which was no surprise.
3) I couldn't hold it back, me and my grandfather were so much alike and he raised me when my parents weren't around.
4) I think it was the event and my feelings altogether.
And yes, I've been close to them. One I had been living with. I cried when they died, but it was so much worse at the funeral. Or, not really. But it was. It's just different.
I guess it was a combination of the environment and the event.
Anyway, I hope that helps in some small way. Suddar fucked around with this message on 11-24-2004 at 11:55 PM.
-Did the others present display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree (i.e. crying)?
**not to the degree I did**
-Did you display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree?
**I broke down in front of her coffin, I had just barely composed myself when I decided I needed to be one of her pallbearers - and I only composed myself for that activity.**
-If so, do you believe this was due to the event itself, or to the reactions of the others present?
**The Event. My aunt was my second mother**
quote:Yes, many, many times.
-Have you ever been present for the death/funerary ritual of a loved one, at which others were present to whom the deceased was also a loved one?
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-Did the others present display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree (i.e. crying)?
quote:This ends up being a fairly personal question for me. I have never cried over someone dieing. I'm not happy they are gone, but I hve no problems functioning whatsoever. In fact, since my early childhood, the only thing I have cried about was an excruciatingly painful break-up... I cried when I knew it was coming, then afterwards. (but not in front of her) That was one of the only times in my life I've been basically unable to function, but I didn't take the day off...
-Did you display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree?
quote:Herm, other people expressing emotion can sometimes sway me a bit, but only if I was on the verge of laughing/crying etc.
-If so, do you believe this was due to the event itself, or to the reactions of the others present?
Noxhil fucked around with this message on 11-25-2004 at 12:12 AM.
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Bloodcookie stumbled drunkenly to the keyboard and typed:
A recent event in my personal life has sparked a line of questioning in my mind, and I'd like to know what your experiences with the matter have been, in order to better analyze my own feelings:-Have you ever been present for the death/funerary ritual of a loved one, at which others were present to whom the deceased was also a loved one?
-Did the others present display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree (i.e. crying)?
-Did you display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree?
-If so, do you believe this was due to the event itself, or to the reactions of the others present?
I appreciate your responses.
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ACES! Another post by Bloodcookie:
-Have you ever been present for the death/funerary ritual of a loved one, at which others were present to whom the deceased was also a loved one?
Yes, Grandfather.-Did the others present display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree (i.e. crying)?
Yes-Did you display strong emotions/loss of self-control to some degree?
No real emotion. Puked in a church, though.-If so, do you believe this was due to the event itself, or to the reactions of the others present?
I feel it was a mixture of grief and the incense.I appreciate your responses.
Display of emotions? Unless nobody shows up, I can't see people not getting upset.
As for myself? No. It isn't apathy. I certainly do care, but it's not something that gets to me. Just one of those things I've decided to accept as a part of life.
I become extremely uncomfortable in the presence of other people grieving because I don't know how to make them feel better. My mother has to walk me through it. Pretty sad.
2) Uh-huh.
3) Nope. I thought it was kind of strange, since most people were crying. I just think about whatever is going on at the time. It takes a while for deaths to sink into my mind. Several months sometimes, even, before I really realize it. I haven't cried because of a death since I was a kid, though.
4) N/A
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Matilda Jane said this:
As for myself? No. It isn't apathy. I certainly do care, but it's not something that gets to me. Just one of those things I've decided to accept as a part of life.
I pretty much echo this on the crying issue. It's hard for me to do it. Even when my grandmother, whom I was very close to, died I found it hard to cry at all. It infuriated me because I didn't want it to look like to everyone else like I didn't care or something, I just couldn't cry. I really don't know why.
