We've been going out for about a month and a half, and the other night she said she loved me, thankfully it was quickly interrupted when her cat pounced on me and freaked me out, which caused both of us to break into hysterical laughter (go figure.) and I played the "Man, what were we even talking about?" card. Except, I'm calling her in about 1 and a half hours from now, as I do every night, and I need an answer to the question.

Should I just be honest?

Not returning an "I love you" is a surefire way to obliterate a relationship, at least in my experience. If saying it is a problem to you, get over it. A phrase is not worth the cost of your relationship.

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So quoth Manticore:
just be honest

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Jennifer fucked around with this message on 10-03-2004 at 06:31 PM.

that way you say it but the "man" makes it seem like more of a friendship love than a dating love

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Jens had this to say about Reading Rainbow:
Just say you love her if you want to hold on to her.

Not returning an "I love you" is a surefire way to obliterate a relationship, at least in my experience. If saying it is a problem to you, get over it. A phrase is not worth the cost of your relationship.

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Those three words have a lot of meaning to me. I really do like this girl, but I'm not ready to say "I love you". I do see where you are coming from though, and I thank you for your input.

Mike the butcher-- I guess I could say that if I wanted her to cry for hours and hate me for the rest of eternity. Did you get that from "That 70's Show"?

Manticore fucked around with this message on 10-03-2004 at 06:35 PM.

No, i just say it to my girlfriend alot. Makes her giggle.

Only a month and a half and she's saying it, and you're both 15? I bet she doesn't/can't mean it yet. If she can pretend, so can you.

I'm not suggesting that 15-year-olds can't know love in that way but will be much more likely to think they have it.

Waisz fucked around with this message on 10-03-2004 at 06:42 PM.

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Waisz had this to say about Knight Rider:
It's time for me to be a great big jackass!

Only a month and a half and she's saying it, and you're both 15? I bet she doesn't/can't mean it yet. If she can pretend, so can you.

I'm not suggesting that 15-year-olds can't know love in that way but will be much more likely to think they have it.

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Well, in any case, she "means" it as much as any girl can at the age of 15. As most of the girls I know are uber-emotional, I would bet she believes she loves me as well. Actually though, she's 16, about to be 17. I really dont want to get into a debate on how old you have to be before you can fully grasp the concept of "Love" because in the end, I think it's something that I was able to grasp for my parents when I was 4 years old, possibly younger.

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Check out the big brain on Blindy!
tell her she's moving to fast, but that doesn't mean you want to break up.

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Thanks, see people, all I wanted was something to say that could get me out of a jam without saying "I love you". I've got to say, you people, the ones who suggested I say "I love you"... I give you an A for effort, but in the long run, that's never a good idea.

You can be honest with her, tell her that you feel it's too soon for you to reciprocate those feelings, but you do really like her and you are honored that she feels that way about you.

I am sure everything will work out okay as long as you consider her feelings as well as your own.

If she keeps doing it, go ahead and tell her how you feel. If she says, "I love you like a fat kid loves cake," though, be prepared to get married, because that's as deep as it gets.

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Kinanik had this to say about Duck Tales:
"I love... cake"

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Damn.. you beat me to the quote.

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Mr. Parcelan's unholy Backstreet Boys obsession manifested in:
I'd say brush it off. The broad sounds like she doesn't really know why or how she's using the words, so play it off.

If she keeps doing it, go ahead and tell her how you feel. If she says, "I love you like a fat kid loves cake," though, be prepared to get married, because that's as deep as it gets.

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She's 16, do you remember what 16 year old girls are like? Of course she doesn't know what she's talking about, no girl or guy at the ages of 14-18 have ANY idea of what they are talking about. Actually, from what I observe, Guys never really get back control of what they're talking and thinking about after puberty (and yes even senior citizens, Thank You Viagra!)

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This one time, at Manticore camp:
She's 16, do you remember what 16 year old girls are like? Of course she doesn't know what she's talking about, no girl or guy at the ages of 14-18 have ANY idea of what they are talking about. Actually, from what I observe, Guys never really get back control of what they're talking and thinking about after puberty (and yes even senior citizens, Thank You Viagra!)

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Way to speak for 50% of the population.

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When the babel fish was in place, it was apparent Manticore said:
She's 16, do you remember what 16 year old girls are like? Of course she doesn't know what she's talking about, no girl or guy at the ages of 14-18 have ANY idea of what they are talking about. Actually, from what I observe, Guys never really get back control of what they're talking and thinking about after puberty (and yes even senior citizens, Thank You Viagra!)

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Blanket statement. Alarms going off. Bad move.

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Jensing:
Just say you love her if you want to hold on to her.

Not returning an "I love you" is a surefire way to obliterate a relationship, at least in my experience. If saying it is a problem to you, get over it. A phrase is not worth the cost of your relationship.

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I agree.

Lie like there's no tomorrow. If anything turns sour, you'll be accused of lying about loving her whether you meant it when you said it or not, so you gain nothing by telling the truth anyway.

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Manticore had this to say about Jimmy Carter:
She's 16, do you remember what 16 year old girls are like? Of course she doesn't know what she's talking about, no girl or guy at the ages of 14-18 have ANY idea of what they are talking about. Actually, from what I observe, Guys never really get back control of what they're talking and thinking about after puberty (and yes even senior citizens, Thank You Viagra!)

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In that case, you might as well propose and pretend to be engaged for a year or so.

Seems to be the trend for 16 year old kids.

Nae has the right idea here. Explain to her why you're not ready to say those three little words. They carry a lot more weight than your average teenager realizes. I salute your maturity in being reluctant to say them.

I don't believe that early relationships should be taken quite so seriously. I got engaged at 17, and very nearly got married at 19. I thank whatever's watching over us every day that I didn't go down that road.

sorry if this is all disjointed and doesn't make sense. it was a seriously shitty night.

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x--ManticoreO-('-'Q) :
She's 16, do you remember what 16 year old girls are like? Of course she doesn't know what she's talking about, no girl or guy at the ages of 14-18 have ANY idea of what they are talking about. Actually, from what I observe, Guys never really get back control of what they're talking and thinking about after puberty (and yes even senior citizens, Thank You Viagra!)

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You sound like you learned everything you know about the world from sitcoms on Lifetime.

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From the book of Manticore, chapter 3, verse 16:
She's 16, do you remember what 16 year old girls are like? Of course she doesn't know what she's talking about, no girl or guy at the ages of 14-18 have ANY idea of what they are talking about. Actually, from what I observe, Guys never really get back control of what they're talking and thinking about after puberty (and yes even senior citizens, Thank You Viagra!)

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hmmm I can't agree to that... she could very well mean it.

I said I love you to my boyfriend I was dating when I was 15/16, I meant it, and still would if he asked, but we're not dating anymore....

Just be honest with her.... my manager pointed out at work today that you can't get hurt worse telling the truth rather than a lie.

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Manticore had this to say about Reading Rainbow:
She's 16, do you remember what 16 year old girls are like? Of course she doesn't know what she's talking about, no girl or guy at the ages of 14-18 have ANY idea of what they are talking about. Actually, from what I observe, Guys never really get back control of what they're talking and thinking about after puberty (and yes even senior citizens, Thank You Viagra!)

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That's only how it works on the TV, fyi.

Her: "I love you"

You: kissing her lips lightly, then holding her close. "I love you too, I love you so much and I want to show you what you mean to me. I want us to be closer and show eachother what love means. I want to make love to you jenny"

Her: a coy half-smile on her face, anticipation in her eyes "Oh hank, I've waited for this day for a month and a half, I want to show you with my body
and soul how well we fit together"

you: sweeping her off her feat and laying her on the futon "Oh jenny, you make me feel like such a man, old and young at the same time. Everything's going to be perfect"

Her: removing hank's shirt slowly, and slipping out of her own blouse "Take me frank, I love you" kisses

You: holding back a little "I can't Jenny, I was only telling you that I loved you because I couldn't come to grips with my feelings. I know I like you and I know I want to spend time with you, I just don't know if I love you yet. Things are just going really quickly, and I want to enjoy where we are instead of rushing to the next level."

Her: tearing off her pants "I love a man who can be open and honest with himself, and it's really romantic that we're so close, take me Hank!" Kisses

FADE TO BLACK AND CUE MUSIC
*5 seconds pass*
You: OH! OH! OH! OH GOD! JENNY! I love you! OH OH OH!
*5 seconds pass*
MUSIC STOPS AND SCENE FADES BACK IN TO FIND OUR LOVERS UNDER BLANKETS

You: "Oh jennny, you make me feel like a new man, I love you. Was it as good for you as it was for me?"

Her: "Probably not, but you'll get some practice. I'll be right back, I've gotta go clean out my navel"

Zaza, you seem to believe that I'm not talking about a specific girl. I am talking about my girlfriend and if all you can say is "Not all teenage girls are emotional"... well... you are indeed right, but it is also true that "Not all teenage girls AREN'T emotional."

For the rest of you who actually helped me find an answer, thanks

By the way, I went with honesty, and she agreed. Everything is "hunky-dorrey" as she put it... I am told that translates to "alright".

As a final note, yes I was wrong in saying "no girl or guy from the age of 14-18 has any idea what they are talking about."

Edit: Spealling is foon.

Manticore fucked around with this message on 10-04-2004 at 07:06 PM.

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ACES! Another post by Alek:
Pff I was an angsty teen when I was 16, it made me different and unique... like all the other angsty 16 year olds.

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You haven't changed.

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Mr. Parcelan spewed forth this undeniable truth:
In that case, you might as well propose and pretend to be engaged for a year or so.

Seems to be the trend for 16 year old kids.

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Don't forget fighting the psychic vampire hordes with the katana you bought at the flea market.

base advise: take you time, think it through, find out if the sex is good

Important point of fact: We had some horrible breakups in there and saw other people.