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Well, it is 2004 now. Years never really feel different to me until things start to happen. I have not been up to much lately. Ian got the urge to play Dark Cloud 2, so now we both spend a good part of our time playing that. Something kept on bothering me last night. Sometimes when I play games and there is a really cool female character, I just wish I could be as cool as that character. Before I met Ian-chan I would have said that guys do not have as many emotions as girls, but really they only get different emotions towards different things. So I wonder if it is just me, or if I am getting some girly emotion. I do not know very many girl gamers. I do remember getting Nikol into Soul Reaver, she did not play too much because when she got into a fight she could not watch Raziel get hurt. I can see a lot of people shaking their heads at that, but Nikol and I also cried when Raziel died in Defiance, so those of you who are shaking your heads can shove it up your ass.
So maybe girls do have different emotions towards video games then guys to. Maybe Nikol and I are just weirdos. And it is not like you can go around asking girls if they play games, because there are some girls who play games, but they are the really super main stream games that they got from their boy friends, or games not worth playing that are based off of t.v. shows.
It is very rare to find a girl gamer who is not a geek. Despite what some people tell me, I am not happy with my self image. Maybe that is why I feel stood up by girl characters. Is it not every guy gamer's dream to date a hot chick who plays good games? I'm not going to lie, I do not think I am hot, and I only think I am pretty sometimes. So I guess it is hard to look at female characters and not look up to them, and want to be like them. Maybe it is not as bad of a feeling as I thought.
The character that is doing this to be is Monica. She has red-pink hair (kinda a light magenta) that goes down to her feet, and is really silky. She also has a really cute looking face and decent sized breasts. She has an awsome attitude, friendly and gets things done. She is awsome at swords, and seeing her with Toan's swords makes me like her even more.
I am never going to be happy with my martial arts skills, I guess it is my way of not getting a big head about it. So I also wish that I could swing a sword around like she does.
But I am still me, and I like being me, I like my life. There is just a few points that I wish I could work on and Monica seemed to smack them right in the center. I still like to play as her though, I just have to learn to look up to her and not degrade myself.
Well, I should go. Everyone is still in a sort of good attitude today, and I don't want to miss out. I also need to wake up Ian-chan sometime soon. ^.^
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What can I do about her self-esteem? It makes me so sad to hear all this. [ 01-03-2004: Message edited by: Drysart ]
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Check out the big brain on Cookies & Cream!!
Give her some of your hot and heavy loving.
bow chika bow wow
I warned Deth against looking in here, but you might get others.
Lyinar Ka`Bael, Piney Fresh Druidess - Luclin
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El Imán Grande! had this to say about Jimmy Carter:
You know she's probably not gonna like you posting this, right?
Nope, she doesn't mind, she was reading over my shoulder as I typed.
Oh, sorry about the Defiance thing
Best thing to do is just be there, and be supportive.
As for the girl (video) gamers, I know one personally. I think there's more out there than people realize.
But the thing I wonder most is this. If you want to help her, why are you here asking about this on a message board to with her reading over your shoulder, rather than turning around and talking to her about this?
Lyinar Ka`Bael, Piney Fresh Druidess - Luclin
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Lyinar Ka`Bael had this to say about Knight Rider:
What's wrong with being a girl gamer and being a geek? Too many people think geek is something to revile and scoff at. If she's a geek, she should revel in being a geek, not be ashamed of it.But the thing I wonder most is this. If you want to help her, why are you here asking about this on a message board to with her reading over your shoulder, rather than turning around and talking to her about this?
Sometimes us guys (especially me) are better at putting our feelings into words with keyboards rather than our mouths.
At least for me it's that way sometimes.
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Nobody really understood why Lyinar Ka`Bael wrote:
What's wrong with being a girl gamer and being a geek?
Who said there's anything wrong with it? Without them most of our male gamer geeks would would forever wander the edge of the gene pool in their water wings and yellow duckie life preservers.
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Palador ChibiDragon had this to say about Punky Brewster:
As for the girl (video) gamers, I know one personally. I think there's more out there than people realize.
(waves her arms)
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We were all impressed when Cass wrote:
(waves her arms)
*cuts Cass's arms off*
Use your words, dammit!
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Lyinar Ka`Bael thought about the meaning of life:
What's wrong with being a girl gamer and being a geek? Too many people think geek is something to revile and scoff at. If she's a geek, she should revel in being a geek, not be ashamed of it.But the thing I wonder most is this. If you want to help her, why are you here asking about this on a message board to with her reading over your shoulder, rather than turning around and talking to her about this?
I have, and I do talk to her about it. But I've come up short...all she says is what she's unhappy about and how there's not a lot I can do to help her self-image because she KNOWS I find her so amazingly attractive and awesome at everything.
And she knows some of the male's reactions here about her looks, so I have NO idea why she thinks she's unnatractive or whathaveyou. I honestly just don't get it.
As for girl gamers, dating someone that is into such a predominantly male hobby would be my worst nightmare and probably end with an episode of cops (to steal a page from Parcelan's book), however there are massive amounts of people who wouldn't like anything better than a girl they can share their hobby with so that isn't really anything to feel down about.
About wanting to be game characters, that's not a big deal imo, those characters are made for people to want to identify with them and do things as them they couldn't in the real world. Hell I'd love to be the son of a god, a ninja, the ruler of a huge empire, a wizard, a Jedi, Mr. Spock, a space fighter pilot or most of the characters I've played in games, but I doubt that's really a sign of low esteem.
No need to grow up overnight, but it's probably time to start nurturing real ambitions about real things to accomplish in the real world. It's infinitely better to be successful IRL and use gaming as entertainment and fantasy escape, than to be so enamored of fantasy RL suffers, beginning the cycle where fantasy detracts from important things, which in turn strengthens the need for fantasy in a destructive downward spiral.
--Satan, quoted by John Milton
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Bloodsage stopped staring at Deedlit long enough to write:
It's infinitely better to be successful IRL and use gaming as entertainment and fantasy escape, than to be so enamored of fantasy RL suffers, beginning the cycle where fantasy detracts from important things, which in turn strengthens the need for fantasy in a destructive downward spiral.
*imagines some poor bastard shivering in an alleyway, clutching some game dice and mumbling about his level-whatever elf*
Stick with her, make her feel alright. That's what you're supposed to do. She'll find her own way in time.
