Problem: Last thursday, my best friend vistied my g/f, but she was at work, and when she got home, she found a note from Mike confessing his love for here, and "Would give up everything" for her cause he says that she makes him feel complete. I had gone to spend the weekend wither her and had arrived at her house on thursday as well. Mike had called and wanted to meet my G/f at the pool hall alone, but refused when he found out I was there, and has called several times for Robyn. Me and Robyn spent all weekend talking how we should handle this, but we just don't know, any sugestions? [ 12-23-2003: Message edited by: Death of Rats ]
It's not something people hear about.
As for you.. do you value your friendship enough to work through this? I wouldn't go beat the crap out of him or anything, but I would definitely let him know that what he has done so far is really uncool.
Not to mention he collects swords guns and is probably better in use with them then me.
second reaction: no wait, that could get bad ummm... kick him in the nuts and run
third reaction: No, that could end bad too. Umm.... GO Mr. Squeakers!! *tosses his hamster at your eyes*
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First and foremost, your girlfriend needs to decide how she feels about the friend. If she is all "No thanks.. I am really happy where I am right now and don't want to risk losing what I have.." then she needs to make sure you and your friend know. She has to be perfectly clear to him that he has no chance. If she isn't.. then he'll take any sign of friendship as an open window to make an advance.As for you.. do you value your friendship enough to work through this? I wouldn't go beat the crap out of him or anything, but I would definitely let him know that what he has done so far is really uncool.
I already asked her that, though I knew what the answer would be, and she did say that she would pick me and would always pick me, she consides him a good friends, they alot alike in personality, though she has never seen him more then a friends, and was completly taken by suprise by this.
As for me, I don't know. I don't know if I can trust him after this. I'm pretty sure this is going to ruin our friendship. I've seen him fall in love with alot of other girls and he tense to be a mess about it, and I think he may try to stick with this in hopes to get her from me.
[ 12-23-2003: Message edited by: Death of Rats ]
Parce: I got the note from robyn that Mike gave her and wrote on it, "I need to talk to you NOW in person" and signed it by me and left it on his door, but he still hasn't contacted me. He's going to shy away from me, and he won't get the message, the bastard gone be a stubborn narrow sited fool sometimes.
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I already asked her that, though I knew what the answer would be, and she did say that she would pick me and would always pick me, she consides him a good friends, they alot alike in personality, though she has never seen him more then a friends, and was completly taken by suprise by this.As for me, I don't know. I don't know if I can trust him after this. I'm pretty sure this is going to ruin our friendship. I've seen him fall in love with alot of other girls and he tense to be a mess about it, and I think he may try to stick with this in hopes to get her from me.
Okay.. so she needs to let him know flat out he has no chance.
And it's understandable that things are going to be extremely weird between you all. Perhaps you guys should take a break from each other then
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Decapitation of all parties involved is the only solution.
That's always the answer.
Any way if Mike has been your long time best freind and your GF clearly is only interested in you, I wouldnt worry about it. be understanding after all your GF is a wonderful person no reason some ohter guy might not also realize that.
Tell mike you are disapointed in him but you wont let a woman ruin your friendship. Let him know this is a boundry that he will jsut have to get used to not crossing, maybe robin has a freind or somthing.. give hi some space and in time things should work out.
Your girlfriend should be firm and clear in saying to him that she has eyes only for you. She shouldn't say, "Oh, but if I ever break up with him, I'll give you a call," or even, "but we can still hang out if you want." That just gives him false hope, and doesn't resolve his feelings for her. In fact, he'll probably just pine for her (and the fjords!) more.
Her best move, since she has chosen you, is to cut him off completely. No more visits alone, no friendly dinner and movie nights alone, nothing. You should, however, invite him to things which the three of you normally do. Chances are that after this, he'll decline nine times out of ten, and with enough time, you won't even bother to ask him.
Will this kill your friendship? Probably. And that sucks. But that's not your fault; he took a chance and tried to steal your girl, and now he'll reap what he has sown.
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yea, what he said!
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And I was all like 'Oh yeah?' and Sentow, Maybe was all like:
I'M IMMORTALIZED!
Your new title is way cooler.
DoR: If you wanna continue a friendship that would be pretty big of you. You AND your girl need to figure that one out though.
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This insanity brought to you by FALLEN:
ok so yea im mike the bastard that ran and hid acording to him but just for the record it take 2 to tango and im never one to back down from a fight she picked him so thats the way it will be but the way things were between us i.e mike and robyn well put me in a since to say what i was feeling and if brian did read the note he would see that i even said on the second line or so yea im an asshole for doing this but i have to tell it like it is and i didnt call 7 time i called 3 over 3 days i have respect for them both thats why i went to her first about it to see where things lie before i went to go farther
I can understand Mog, but I can't understand you, FALLEN. I think it's because Mog for the most part has coherent grammar and thought, just pretty bad spelling, while you have...a spelling...of sorts.
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As for the situation, DoR, your girl needs to make it clear your friend has no chance and that you're the one she wants. She doesn't have to completely cut him off. I've been in this situation before myself, and it was sticky for a while, but he's one of my best friends and has been for many years now. So if it was a good, solid friendship before, and it's not something she wants to have to give up, then she doesn't have to. But she has to make it clear it will never happen. She has to be firm.
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I assume "FALLEN" is the betrayer in question.
1. it boils down to this FALLEN, is your friendship worth more than the girl? There is no justification, explination, no speaking, the only answer to this is Yes or No, failure to answer in anything else, results in a default no.
2. Death of Rats: looks like Robyn is sticking to you regardless of his feelings, take a moment and consider yourself lucky this didn't turn into apeshit crazy drama. Then, based on mike's answer, either A. Accept his apology (if he says the friendship is worth more), or B. Never so much as speak to him again (Personally I'd kick the 8th level of shit out of him for a solid day straight, but then, I'm able to do such things, I dunno how you are with violence)
Everything I would say, has been said. Booya! I'm off the hook!
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DoR any person who would do this is not your friend, and any attempt to keep the "friendship" is just asking for trouble down the road.
Death to Rats > Obviously youyr girlfriend has choosen you. Now what you need to do is sit down and talk amongst the three of you on how to settle this situation. Name calling, yelling and arguing HAS to be left out of it if you want a conclusion that doesn't involve the slamming of doors.
Consider yourself lucky. I know of a few people in which they went with the "other guy".
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As for the whole problem, I say it's up to the girl. If she picks DoR, tell mike to fuck off and die. If she picks Mike, then DoR should go play in traffic. And if she's not sure, then she should become a nun and bitchslap both of them with a huge ass ruler.
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become a nun and bitchslap both of them with a huge ass ruler.
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