My father gets in an argument with me, then physically attacks me. Am I within my rights to do anything about this?
Another note -- this is not hte first time he has done this since I turned 18. [ 10-04-2003: Message edited by: Falaanla Marr ]
Getting into a huge physical fight would be stupid.
*steals all of Fal's food from his fridge*
If you call the cops, then the terrorists will have won.
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Falaanla Marr obviously shouldn't have said:
I'm 22, and in all ways considered independent from my parents, the only link I keep with them is because of being family.My father gets in an argument with me, then physically attacks me. Am I within my rights to do anything about this?
Another note -- this is not hte first time he has done this since I turned 18.
On your property, you are well within your rights to call the cops on him, or defend yourself however you desire, so long as the force you respond with is not excessive for the given situation. (Don't blow someone's brains out for punching your arm)
Call the cops, get the situation in the system. Even if they can't do anything about this instance, you'll have documentation of the assault occuring that can establish a history later.
They come to the apartment before they leave, right?
I do my best to ignore them (mother and father). My little brother says my grandma and grandpa left already, so I go out to tell them bye at their car, and ignore mother and father again.
I walk back in, as they hadn't left yet but were in another room. As i walk by my father, the asshole starts LAUGHING at me. So I turn around and tell him to get off my property. He then got in my face, but didn't touch me this time, because I told him straight out if he did, I was calling the police. The argument kept going for a little bit, before he finally left. During this time I let him and my mother know how I felt about how they treated me for the 16 years I lived with them, how I feel the treated me like total crap compared to my popular baseball player brother, everything. I don't think they liked hearing the truth, but damnit, I've held all that in for way too long.
As far as I'm concerned, I'm no longer a part of this family (and as far as they are concerned too.). Does anyone know the process I need to go through to end all ties with them, everything? This was far from the first time they have treated me like shit, and I had enough years ago. I tried to put up with their crap for my little brother, but I simply can't anymore. I'm done. I'm...just done with it. [ 10-05-2003: Message edited by: Falaanla Marr ]
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ACES! Another post by Bajah:
Move somewhere, change your name, leave no trace!
I know you are just joking around, but I seriously am considering trying to find a way to move away, if I can get in state tuition elsewhere, I'll go off somewhere else in the country and finish up my schooling. I want to get as far from this as possible.
And by severing ties with them, I mean...what is the process to get a birth certificate changed to have his name removed from it, and her name removed from it if possible, and what is the process for a last name change, how much does it cost, etc etc etc. I don't want their name anymore, I don't want them to have a record of having anything to do with me, as they never really gave a shit about me anyway. [ 10-05-2003: Message edited by: Falaanla Marr ]
I second the notion, move away. You don't need douchebag mucking up your life anymore.
I know your pissed off right now, and I know how you feel. I have been in the situation you find yourself in today. I think changing your name, moving away, disappearing is a bit extreme.
Sleep on it. If your family doesn't love you, they won't try to call right? If you never returned their phone calls and they really don't care, they will stop trying to call.
OR
They do keep calling, or they come over, hopefully in a conciliatory mood. Maybe you can talk it out like adults. Don't make this decision in an emotional tornado. If your going to do it, think about it, think very hard, think about your brother.
I have a very difficult family, but I love them and care for them ON MY TERMS, not theirs. You can do it too. It's a tough road to hoe, but I think it's worth it in the end. I wish you luck either way.
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Emil was listening to Cher while typing:Sleep on it.
Tried that last night. I hardly got any sleep last night as a matter of fact.
I may just move away for a few years then come back, maybe then they'd realize what they lost and actually give a shit.
The only person I care about in this family right now is my little brother, Sabratiz (aka Alex to those that know him by that name). The others? I don't acknowledge them as family members anymore.
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Falaanla Marr wrote, obviously thinking too hard:
I know you are just joking around, but I seriously am considering trying to find a way to move away, if I can get in state tuition elsewhere, I'll go off somewhere else in the country and finish up my schooling. I want to get as far from this as possible.And by severing ties with them, I mean...what is the process to get a birth certificate changed to have his name removed from it, and her name removed from it if possible, and what is the process for a last name change, how much does it cost, etc etc etc. I don't want their name anymore, I don't want them to have a record of having anything to do with me, as they never really gave a shit about me anyway.
Ummmm... You are 22 years old. You don't HAVE any ties to them to sever. Unless you are using them for something, or getting aide or something from them. In which case thats your choice, and it's as simple as not taking anything from them.
As far as the whole name change thing... That's a whole lot of hell for no real gain. Even piece of mind, as it will inevitably cause more grief than it is worth. It also sounds like a highly irrational emotional overreaction. (Not saying the feelings are ungrounded or anything, because i'm sure you have just cause for feeling how you do.) But by giving in you do two things, you give yourself more grief than you probably want to deal with, and two you let them win for driving you so far. If nothing else keep the name and make something of it just so you have something to throw back at them, should the chance ever come up.
Buuuuuuuuut. Since you asked... Basically contact your local courthouse, and social security office as far as the name change, and social reissue. As for your birthcertificate. You can null it, but it will never be removed, it is a part of public record from the time you are born, and not subject to change outside of a formal adoption (Even then the original stays on file, in the court records where you were born.) You can possibly contact them for more options or questions. It would be the the records office for the county you were born in. [ 10-05-2003: Message edited by: Faelynn LeAndris ]
