I know I'm not really well known on this board, or popular, or anything like that, but I'm just kinda scared and wanted to get some people's opinions..
So, my mom's boyfriend walks into my computer room where me and my little sister are, and says, "Hey, I need to ask you guys a question." I figured, sure, okay, no big deal.. but then he says, "Would it be okay if I asked your mom to marry me?"
They've only been going out for four months, and I barely even know this guy... It really scares me. My mom had mentioned that she might marry him, but I had always figured on being out of the house and away at college by then... And he's practically a stranger to me.
He seems nice enough.. he's not much else but nice. He mispronounces words like "anime" and "ddr" because he knows I like them, and thinks it's funny for some reason. I've never seen him get angry, but I have a feeling he can get really nasty. *Sighs*
I dunno what to do.. It would be so weird. 
So, don't be worried. Your mom could do worse.
then again, if its hwoyou feel, he'll prolly be ok if you do ask him to wait a little while for you to get used tot he idea or whatever
plus keep in mind, the amount of time from "goign to marry" to "maraige" is often quiet a bit
Maybe you can ask to spend time with him first. Get to know him more. He probably won't be a father figure if/when your mother marries him. But at the very least, maybe he can be a friend. If he really cares about your approval, and if he really cares about your mom, he'll be willing to get to know you and postpone it a little bit. If he's not, then maybe you should be wary.
Either way, good luck. Marriage is scary, even when you're not the one getting married.
I'd say for him to wait another few.
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Lenlalron Flameblaster wrote this stupid crap:
Four months?I'd say for him to wait another few.
Yeah =/ That's what I was thinking. At the time I was really too freaked out to respond with anything other than an 'okay.' My sister is totally opposed to the idea.. even though she didn't voice it.
One of the main things that worries me is he seems a lot like my step-grandpa, who talks way too much about things you could care less about, but is otherwise nice... Except when he gets angry or grumpy(that seems to be a lot nowadays), he really gets angry or grumpy, and always thinks he's right, no matter what. And my granpa tends to hover over my shoulder and ask things like "What are you doing?!" whenever I'm online. He also gets cheesed off if I'm on for longer than a half an hour.
Minor things, I suppose. Maybe I'm overreacting..
Upside, he actually was considerate enough to talk to you and your sister beforehand. That shows that he's considerate to think about how this will affect you guys.
On the other hand, all those movies on Lifetime have to based on something.
