She says she's going to do this for me, and do it in a fashion to surprise me with. However, she promised me she'd wait two years before doing so because I have a moral disagreement with "cheating" in forming a bonding relationship - I figure if we're going to be married, we should be capable of existing as a separate and sufficient "house-hold." You know, be able to live without having to rely on other people for support.
So I have two years in which to do what I plan, which is to give her a promise ring. A promise ring is essentially a physical symbol for "I promise I won't say no if you ask."
I want to do it in a way that is fun and playful, and I would like it if it was in a way that she wouldn't expect. While I have some ideas, I figured I might also hear what all of you have to say. If nothing else, it could be a fun thread. 
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She likes punk music, kittens, and anarchistic acts, has a thing for body-modification (tatoos and piercings), is anathema to traditions, and goes places/does things based on instant judgement calls. If she likes it, she goes. If she doesn't, no amount of cajoling will get her there.
Other than that, well... sappy cheesy romance works.
I hate being overly cliché romantic, sometimes. 
You could also have the kitten presented at a favorite hang out.
Congratulations! It's good to hear some good news.
But, I do like Nicoles idea.
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Evil Tarquinn was naked while typing this:
Ask again in 20 months.
If I figure out a good way now, I can start working towards that now. Y'know, plan.
If I ask you in 20 months, I won't have nearly as much time to arrange and think and such.
Also, my choice of ring may be different depending on the situation in which I give it. So waiting is difficult.
I'll probably ask again in 6 months or so, but there's no reason not to start collecting ideas now.
I thought I might go with some variation of Nicole's idea, and as a Christmas or birthday present take her to get an ear/eyebrow/nose/whatever piercing. Then suggest she go with a ring, say I already have one picked out for her, and present her with the ring. (And buy her a stud for the piercing, since we both generally prefer those to rings in piercings anyway.)
Or I can cook her a meal for some special occasion, and for desert make a giant sundae of home-made cherry ice-cream (she loves cherries). On the top I'd put a single whole cherry, and draped over the stem I'd put the ring.
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For further information, her birthday is also our anniversary.
In short, I concur with (evil) Tarquinn on this matter.
What's so bad about just being with a person if you love them?? I always questioned this. Relationships aren't always perfect, especially in today's culture. I won't be bothering to get married again after my escapades down the isle...
If it makes you happy, then by all means, just make sure you've definitely thought it through, and have had several reality checks before just "Diving" in...Don't do that, that's what I did, learn from other's mistakes 
We don't believe that two people should be legally-obligated to undergo a gigantic hassle if their relationship doesn't work out in the long, long, LONG run.
So we're going to go through a process that is similar, but is not actually marriage. Because we don't want the crap.
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K_Kid had this to say about Pirotess:
Why, why WHY did I have to click on the marriage related thread?? I got married recently, and already am in the process of a VERY messy divorce...My suggestion: RUN WHILE YOU CAN!!!What's so bad about just being with a person if you love them?? I always questioned this. Relationships aren't always perfect, especially in today's culture. I won't be bothering to get married again after my escapades down the isle...
If it makes you happy, then by all means, just make sure you've definitely thought it through, and have had several reality checks before just "Diving" in...Don't do that, that's what I did, learn from other's mistakes
Yay.. this is SOOO uplifting! No really it is!
not to say you're dumb, K_Kid, but you obviously didn't think it through, did you?
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The logic train ran off the tracks when K_Kid said:
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Hey, just because YOU fucked up, doesn't mean that's Marriage's fault.
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