My best wishes to the family and friends left behind.
Only time will heal the wound in your heart lass...
Again, I'm sorry.
Simpathy to you as well as the friends and family.
While you should feel sad for your friend, there's no pont whatever in blaming yourself, or even wondering what you might have done.
--Satan, quoted by John Milton
I couldn't have said it better myself.
Nothing you said or did would have changed what that person did to themselves, their family and friends.
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greykittytwilight had this to say about Robocop:
*sigh* He was alot smarter then what even he gave himself credit for. I just wish he'de given some thought to what he was doing first..
Not your fault, move on. Yadda yadda. Read previous posts.
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Demitri had this to say about Reading Rainbow:
Not your fault, move on. Yadda yadda. Read previous posts.
Thanks..for the reccomendation. If I could move on so easily..If I wasnt so emotionally attached and upset..If I wasnt in such pain and shock over this..I just might be able to move in and all that "yadda yadda". Instead though, I am upset. I am hurting, and I am in shock. So maybe its not that freaking easy for me to just accept it isnt my fault and move on! [ 01-22-2002: Message edited by: greykittytwilight ]
*gives GKT a good firm hug, not opening his mouth since he's none too good at being verbally comforting.*
They leave behind more hurt and concern than they can possibly imagine. Their friends. Their family. Branch it out from there.
I'm sure damn near everyone who knew this person is probably feeling hurt and thinking "what could I have done to prevent this?"
Nothing.
95% of people who want to commit suicide either never do, get a moment of clarity and stop, or just can't do it when the time comes. If they DO manage to complete the act, then they had planned on doing it anyway and there's nothing anyone could do to change their mind. You have to be seriously commited to ending it all if you're going to take your own life.
And it is selfish. I do not mean to sound harsh, GKT; I'm really and truly sorry for your loss and I feel a great amount of sorrow for his family and friends. That's the best I can do. But there's nothing you could have done once he made up his mind. You need to realize that.
Another thing to concider is that by not emptying your sorrow and leaving a spot in your heart for that friend does NO ONE any good. Instead of mourning the friend, remember the good things. That way, he'll always be alive... in your heart.
This isn't a "pity me" thing, because I'm not there anymore, but at a point in my life I was. And the times I came closest to just taking my best shot and hoping it all fell into place, the reason I didn't wasn't fear of death or anything (mostly, anyway, because it's always there even if you don't even care anymore), it was the fact that people were always there for me. Friends. Carl, Alley, Mary, Amanda...who you don't know (okay, so Carl, but he doesn't count). But...don't get me wrong, because I almost reached the breaking point where I would need direct intervention from somebody I cared about or cared about me to stop. (whatever the method may be, even though I'd prefer some over others.)
I never saw the post about this before, so I can't say for sure without the details, but...you had no way of knowing that he was going to do anything. You can't read his mind. And if he didn't contact YOU for help, then there's nothing you could've done. Trust me. I can relate better than I care to admit. And I know this may sound kind of contradictory to what I just said about what...Bajah said, but it isn't. I was just trying to clear it up to the best of my ability...most of them aren't so far gone that they wouldn't respond to somebody who cares.
I...don't know. You have nothing to blame yourself over. I can't tell you not to grieve, because you will anyway (and that's a good thing), but...you can't blame yourself for this.
I'm sorry.
(i'm also sorry if this post went in circles, i'm not very articulate about this stuff.)
