Bearing in mind that I'm not too comfortable with large, impersonal crowds (like rave/concert sized and distributed; I don't mind large numbers of people if they're not tightly packed together) and I hate senselessly loud music, where would I go to find members of the opposite sex with whom I may pass the time and some conversation? I live within 20 minutes of downtown San Diego and the beach is there (obviously) along with any number of other things, so there aren't too many limitations on venue beyond the aforementioned.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
Go to the number of other things.
Going anywhere is good for meeting people, just so long as you get out of the house. Seriously.
You can't meet anybody holed up in your room thinking about where you'd like to be meeting people... Suddar fucked around with this message on 02-09-2005 at 11:39 PM.
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Suddar had this to say about Jimmy Carter:
Concerts and stuff really aren't all that bad. Just don't go alone, ever. That's just boring. No good.Going anywhere is good, just so long as you get out of the house. Seriously.
This is the problem I run into: people telling me I should "get out of the house" but lacking any idea where to go or what to do. Having lived most of my life in back country and having virtually no social life the entire time, I haven't the slightest idea of what to do with myself outside my house. Combine that with friends who are mostly lazy or unmotivated and it doesn't leave much.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
You may want to try gaming shops of any sort--there are female patrons every so often. Don't be intrusive about what they're doing, but if you notice them perusing something that you've some experience, knowledge, or interest with, of, or in, then go and strike up conversation with them about it.
Vorbis fucked around with this message on 02-09-2005 at 11:42 PM.
p.s. gj on making an effort to get out more. gj.
"OMG! Female gamers DO exist!"
So, tell us more about what interests you. Music? Dance? Art? Movies? Food? Name it.
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So quoth Ares:
Yeah, cool people like me hang out at arcades and comic places and get stared at cause I have breasts."OMG! Female gamers DO exist!"
OMG, A GIRL! *hides in the corner drooling*
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Kuroi Madoushi stopped beating up furries long enough to write:
This is the problem I run into: people telling me I should "get out of the house" but lacking any idea where to go or what to do. Having lived most of my life in back country and having virtually no social life the entire time, I haven't the slightest idea of what to do with myself outside my house. Combine that with friends who are mostly lazy or unmotivated and it doesn't leave much.
Look, it's just an excuse. I know, because I used to be just like you. People can sit here and tell you over and over where to go and what to do, but you won't listen until you decide yourself to do it. That's what I'm saying: don't ask us, because we don't know what you want to do. Just go out and do it. Anyplace is better than home.
My friend tried to get this through my head for two years before I finally got it. It's all about comfort zones. You're comfortable at home, so you have no desire to go out and socialize. You aren't going to get anywhere with that kind of attitude. You have no social life because you don't go out. Frankly, you've just got to suck it up and go. I mean it.
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Dr Flea wrote, obviously thinking too hard:
OMG, A GIRL! *hides in the corner drooling*
Seriously.. I walked into a comic store near here when a warhammer tournament was going on. They all stopped and stared at me, except for the owner who knew me. It was scary... I had to walk by all of the staring faces or pre-puberty males to feed my old manga addiction.
Even a shopping centre or grocery store is all good. Pvednes fucked around with this message on 02-09-2005 at 11:55 PM.
you dig?
For me (it may not help you at all), I found it helpful to go out with a stranger and one mutual friend and find something fun to do. Something all three of you can enjoy so nobody is left out. It's a good way to start conversation with somebody you don't know. This helps you in two ways: one, you're making a new friend, and two, you learn how to carry a conversation with somebody you don't know. Both help you expand your social network. That's probably the best start you can get. Or, it was for me.
Still, the most important thing is getting out of the house. Suddar fucked around with this message on 02-10-2005 at 12:04 AM.
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New Age Bane said this about your mom:
Take some E and go to a party then you'll meet lots of people... oh wait
Getting drunk will produce the same results. In my experience, people who are usually very shy/quiet, become EXTREMELY loud and sociable once that alchohol begins its run through their system.
........Craig you should have just asked me where to go
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Dr Flea impressed everyone with:
Getting drunk will produce the same results. In my experience, people who are usually very shy/quiet, become EXTREMELY loud and sociable once that alchohol begins its run through their system.
Yes but if you combine the 2 then theres no stopping you!
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Noni wrote, obviously thinking too hard:
"females."
They look like women, they talk like women, they have the genitalia of a...man?
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From the book of Dr Flea, chapter 3, verse 16:
They look like women, they talk like women, they have the genitalia of a...man?
.......only in El Cajon
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Everyone wondered WTF when Demos wrote:
Ok, instead of trying to find something to do for the sake of meeting people, name what you are interested. Then we can try to name activities that will both be fun, and will allow you to meet people with similar interests which helps in establishing a relationship.So, tell us more about what interests you. Music? Dance? Art? Movies? Food? Name it.
Interests? I'm a fucking socially inept gamer who reads books. The issue here lies in having no idea at all where to do. It often happens taht I want to go do something but I haven't the slightest idea where to go or what to do. Anything is good, I just need some ideas. Noni, give me a call sometime when you're not at work/busy and we'll discuss.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
jesus christ
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How.... Kuroi Madoushi.... uughhhhhh:
Interests? I'm a fucking socially inept gamer who reads books. The issue here lies in having no idea at all where to do. It often happens taht I want to go do something but I haven't the slightest idea where to go or what to do. Anything is good, I just need some ideas. Noni, give me a call sometime when you're not at work/busy and we'll discuss.
Take up a cooking class. If at all else, you can make yourself an omelette.
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Liam stopped staring at Deedlit long enough to write:
Take up a cooking class. If at all else, you can make yourself an omelette.
Chicks dig guys who can cook, imo
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Addy's fortune cookie read:
Chicks dig guys who can cook, imo
Wanna come over and have some cup ramen with me?
I won't even take my shirt off, I swear.
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And I was all like 'Oh yeah?' and Liam was all like:
Take up a cooking class. If at all else, you can make yourself an omelette.
Might not be a bad idea. *chalks that idea up for next semester*
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
It worked for me.
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Elvish Crack Piper had this to say about Pirotess:
Go to a local college/highschool sportsgame and hook up with people who go bowling afterwords.It worked for me.
I dunno about that one. The people at the games tend to be sports enthusiasts of one form or another and I'm just not interested in sports. Not to say every person there will be such, but events draw people who are interested in them. *ponders* There's some hot women in fencing...that might be a decent idea.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
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Mortious's fortune cookie read:
Use your instincts, young one.
My instincts say "stay home and play WoW", I need to stop that.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
So, get a job a place with hot chicks, and ask them out to coffe, a movie, sex in the breakroom after work or something.
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Waisz obviously shouldn't have said:
When you get into college it should be different. I have lost most of my introvertedness and am still becoming more extroverted. Still just a freshman.
Same deal with me. Now I feel bored holed up in my room unless there are others in here, too.
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Waisz probably says this to all the girls:
When you get into college it should be different. I have lost most of my introvertedness and am still becoming more extroverted. Still just a freshman.
College marked little change for me beyond more autonomy. I still hang with a largely homogenous group of friends and sit at home doing nothing much. Perhaps once I transfer to a four year and get out on my own or into the dorms or some such it'll change things.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
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Kuroi Madoushi had this to say about Tron:
College marked little change for me beyond more autonomy. I still hang with a largely homogenous group of friends and sit at home doing nothing much. Perhaps once I transfer to a four year and get out on my own or into the dorms or some such it'll change things.
Oh. Right. Dorms a big part of it.
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Kegwen had this to say about Optimus Prime:
Oh. Right. Dorms a big part of it.
Actually lived in the dorms for a while at this one college I went to and failed out of (long story, don't feel like telling), I miss dorm life.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
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The logic train ran off the tracks when Mr. Parcelan said:
Go to hell.
Been living there the past few years, thank you. Now be quiet.
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
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Kuroi Madoushi's unholy Backstreet Boys obsession manifested in:
Been living there the past few years, thank you. Now be quiet.
Message someone when you want back in the guild.
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Mr. Parcelan probably says this to all the girls:
Message someone when you want back in the guild.
*sigh* I knew I should never have given the leadership over to you...
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the beans of Java the thoughts aquire speed, the teeth acquire stains, the stains become a warning. It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
