Now, there's also a guy named Dave in the band. He's a great friend, but tends to be really arrogant around women. (Flirting so openly that it borders on sexual harassment, letting his hands wander around people, always coming in with a different girlfriend's picture in his wallet each week, that kind of guy) Now, for the last few months he's been flirting with Cierra at rehearsals, despite the fact that they're both seeing someone else. I had talked with him privately about it, and he made it clear that he wasn't trying for a relationship with Cierra, just fooling around on the side. (No, they weren't sleeping together or anything, just flirting heavily and disappearing for 15 to 20 minute stretches during rehearsals)
Two weeks ago, Cierra and I were talking alone during a break in rehearsal, where she brought up how she had broken up with her boyfriend the day before. Now, I'm horrible at reading people's intentions from body language, voice tone and words, etc. but it seemed to me like she was checking to see if I was interested in her. (Yes, I'm single so I hinted to her subtly that we could get together later sometime) The next day I met her and Ryan at a coffee shop where Ryan was working.
Cierra and I made some small talk for a while, then she brought the conversation on to Dave and her. She told me that she really despised the way he acted, and was never really interested in him. After that we talked about random things, and I got to thinking that she and I were really compatible in some ways. (How much can you get to really know about someone's lifestyle and hobbies with 45 minutes?) I didn't get to talk to Ryan much, as she was working.
Skip forward to this week: We have fun at drum rehearsal, Dave didn't show up this week, so it was just me, Ryan, and Cierra chatting afterwards. We decided to go see Anchorman, and all headed off for the theater. I had to make a quick stop home to grab some money for it, and while inside alone with Ryan she mentions offhandedly that she and her boyfriend are having problems, and that she's probably going to break up with him very soon. (Once again, I've got no clue what women could be meaning when they say things like that. So I tried to say something neutral like 'Oh, I thought you two were getting along so well.' Then we were off to the movies.
When we were there, I walked into the theater a little after the women, and they had already staked out seats for us, leaving me (to my surprise) sitting next to Ryan. We all watched the movie, laughed, and had a good time. That brings us up to today I guess.
I'm not sure where the two of them stand about me to be honest. I really don't want them to have problems with their friendship if I get into a relationship with one of them. And overall I just don't know how to take some of their signals. My plan at the moment is to keep it casual and fun with both of them at the same time, and see what happens. Anyways...any other point of views I could be missing? I'm hesitant to go up to one of them and say 'Hey, wanna start dating?' because it could cause tension with the other if they're both interested. (Or maybe I'm full of wishful thinking and neither are interested in me as a romance at all)
2. pessimisticly, you're setting yourself up for the emotional whore status, whereupon the girl will use you to dump emotional baggage on and date other men, this phenom is well documented at www.laddertheory.com
there is no way to tell you what to do, because well, everyone has to take this differently, just look out for those two very common situations, hope it helps some.
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nem-x probably says this to all the girls:
Threesome
Yes, yes, the thought's occured to me. Then again I don't think I could date both as easily as I could fuck them. (Paying for two meals during a date's doable, three's getting out of hand. 
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Rodent King stumbled drunkenly to the keyboard and typed:
Yes, yes, the thought's occured to me. Then again I don't think I could date both as easily as I could fuck them. (Paying for two meals during a date's doable, three's getting out of hand.)
Have a threesome and make your decision on choosing based on who gets the most pleasure from you. If neither of them are receptive to you, let them lesbian it up while you cry in a corner.
It's the only solution.
Sheesh.
Humor disclaimer: What I know about having TWO women like me at the same time you could fit into a matchbook without taking the matches out first. 
You'll probably be the rebound guy, so don't be too suprised if it doesn't last. But who knows - one of my friends has been going out with a "rebound guy" for the past year and a half or so.
You're decently young, enjoy yourself.
But I don't know much about dating around.
Ok sorry about that, didn't want to hijack your thread with my problems. I'd say that you should really just get to know both of them and not really get commited to either of them until you can find the one you match with the most. If you fuck both of them then the other will find out and jealousy will ensue along with you reverting to your right hand for solace. Take your time, find the one you're the most compatible with and then make a go of it. The worst thing you can do is be the rebound man and find out that you two will never really work out down the road. Remember young padawan, you are the hunter, know thy prey and you shall strike at the most rewarding target on the field. Spiffy Puppet fucked around with this message on 07-17-2004 at 06:19 PM.
I heart you Hunny
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Nobody really understood why frolicking imp wrote:
I heart you Hunny
you too. Sorry for not calling before about it, but our phones obviously don't work well anyway. I'll call tomorrow, see if we can get together with Zair.
