Last Thursday(Valentines Day) I decided to take half a vacation day from work and go home early to be with Kristina(My Fiancee).
When I get home I see her car isn't in the driveway. I figured good...gives me time to shower up and get her gifts out of hiding.
Well when I walk in and go to our room I see a note laying on my nightstand. I'm not going to go into details about what the note said. But it basically said she needs some time to think about everything. We are supposed to get married September of this year.
She is living with her parents for the time being...she called me the night after and explained to me a little better how she feels. I understand I guess...but it is so lonley without her there.
Sorry for coming here and whining about my problems...I just felt like telling you guys for some reason.
*doesn't know what to say...offers a hug, if wanted*
I could use a hug right now.
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But moping won't help anything.
It's normal to get the jitters when facing such a life-defining event, even from this far away. Especially as young as you guys are.
The best thing you can do, though, is prove that her fears are groundless. Show her that you love her. Demonstrate that her life will be incomplete without you there to encourage, console, and support her. Make it clear that her path to self-fulfillment is inextricably tied to your relationship.
It won't be easy. She may need some time away; she may even need to postpone permanent plans.
But one thing I can guarantee is that being needy, depressed, or otherwise a burden on her conscience will only reinforce her misgivings about the relationship.
Just a thought. Take it for what it's worth: the voice of experience.
--Satan, quoted by John Milton
Praying you get your happy ending...
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Bloodsage thought this was the Ricky Martin Fan Club Forum and wrote:
That really does suck.But moping won't help anything.
It's normal to get the jitters when facing such a life-defining event, even from this far away. Especially as young as you guys are.
The best thing you can do, though, is prove that her fears are groundless. Show her that you love her. Demonstrate that her life will be incomplete without you there to encourage, console, and support her. Make it clear that her path to self-fulfillment is inextricably tied to your relationship.
It won't be easy. She may need some time away; she may even need to postpone permanent plans.
But one thing I can guarantee is that being needy, depressed, or otherwise a burden on her conscience will only reinforce her misgivings about the relationship.
Just a thought. Take it for what it's worth: the voice of experience.
...That is very good advice...I will try.
Thanks...
That sucks. I hope it all works out for you both.
Good advice by Sage though.
Good luck.
