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Topic: Ever have words tear your heart out and crush it?
OtakuPenguin
Peels like a tangerine, but is juicy like an orange.
posted 11-28-2001 01:29:00 PM
"I'm moving to Reno, Nevada Friday"

My girlfriend told me that this morning. It felt as if my hear had been torn out and thrown against the wall then stomped on by little kids.

I don't know how to act...I have been down all day...she leaves this Friday.

I've never been in a REALLY loving relationship like this one. I...I just don't know how to act.

..:: This Is The Sound Of Settling ::..
King Parcelan
Chicken of the Sea
posted 11-28-2001 01:33:15 PM
She never said it had to end. Do your best to keep up a long-distance relationship, although there's a good chance it won't work out. Be prepared for it.

Sorry to hear it, dude

KaLourin
Illanae's Stooge!
posted 11-28-2001 01:36:01 PM
How long have you been together?
Dont make me slap you so hard your bucket spins around, and around,and stops sideways,thus confusing you, and making you run about London wearing your bucket, a g-string, and carrying a stick,smacking the ground while yelling "MAGICALLY DELICIOUS! MAGICALLY FUCKING DELICIOUS!"- {Tal} to Mortious
Hebrew 9:3- 'And the Lord said unto me, "Dude, there isn't a K in covenant."' - Snoota

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OtakuPenguin
Peels like a tangerine, but is juicy like an orange.
posted 11-28-2001 01:41:23 PM
Almost a year and a half
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KaLourin
Illanae's Stooge!
posted 11-28-2001 01:46:13 PM
..... and shes just NOW telling you that shes moving to Reno this friday? She never mentioned or discussed this with you?
Dont make me slap you so hard your bucket spins around, and around,and stops sideways,thus confusing you, and making you run about London wearing your bucket, a g-string, and carrying a stick,smacking the ground while yelling "MAGICALLY DELICIOUS! MAGICALLY FUCKING DELICIOUS!"- {Tal} to Mortious
Hebrew 9:3- 'And the Lord said unto me, "Dude, there isn't a K in covenant."' - Snoota

This beer drops trou and fucks your mouth with pure hoppy goodness. - Karnaj
OtakuPenguin
Peels like a tangerine, but is juicy like an orange.
posted 11-28-2001 02:00:39 PM
She just found out too.

She's been having family problems. Her parents are getting divorced and her dad kicked her and her mom out.

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Josef
Smooth Operator
posted 11-28-2001 02:20:03 PM
This is unfortunate.
However, LD relationships, despite all accounts to the contrary, -can- work out. It depends somewhat on your age, I wager, however my girlfriend and I met at a long distance, became an item at a long distance (1000+ miles), and remained long distance bf and gf for an entire year before finally making the leap and moving to the same city together for the -sole- reason of being together. It was worth that much to us.

It can be done, if it's worth that much to you.

[ 11-28-2001: Message edited by: Josef ]

Skaw
posted 11-28-2001 02:47:27 PM
Josef, bringer of years old news

We have living proof of LD Relationships going strong with Deth and Lyinar, and Me and Anne(even though it did end.)

Bane
BANNED
posted 11-28-2001 03:17:54 PM
kidnap her and you two can go on a long road trip to canada for a while
cout << "SCORE!";
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Bajah
Thooooooor
posted 11-28-2001 03:20:10 PM
My girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue with an email. We were together for nearly 4 years.

I know what's it like to have words rip out your heart.

Ayerine Angelyre
Pancake
posted 11-28-2001 03:35:43 PM
I had a long distance relationship with someone for nearly 2 years. I'm sorry you two have to go through this. Just keep in touch through e-mail/IM or hand-written letters, and maybe you or she can visit once in awhile. As long as you two communicate and trust eachother, then I don't see why it's impossible. Take care.
Kegwen
Sonyfag
posted 11-28-2001 03:41:30 PM
Wow, dude... I'm really sorry..

This seems to be a curse for your family, it's quite disturbing that this has happened to you AND your sister in such a short amount of time.

I feel really bad for you and Elly, now

Alleria Qui'farush
Chica!
posted 11-28-2001 03:55:22 PM
.....I'm sorry....
OtakuPenguin
Peels like a tangerine, but is juicy like an orange.
posted 11-28-2001 04:26:38 PM
quote:
Check out the big brain on Kegwen Tabibito!
Wow, dude... I'm really sorry..

This seems to be a curse for your family, it's quite disturbing that this has happened to you AND your sister in such a short amount of time.

I feel really bad for you and Elly, now


Yeah, reminds me of that line in Happy Gilmore "Anyone who gets close to me dies, if I were you I'd run"

...i'll get through this

Obladi-Oblada...

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Azizza
VANDERSHANKED
posted 11-28-2001 04:30:08 PM
Man that really sucks. But it doesn't have to be then end. Long distance relationships can work. It isnt' easy but it isn't impossible either.

Keep the faith.

"Pacifism is a privilege of the protected"
Ozimander
$$$$$$$$$$$
posted 11-28-2001 04:40:56 PM

That really sucks. In my honest opinion long-distance relationships suck unless you can visit each other. The important thing is to not get down about it. Yes, it seems like I am saying to give a pound of flesh but not draw blood, but it is vital you not be upset about this.

You need to remain friends atleast, you have no idea what can happen in years to come. Your never garunteed tomarrow. Spend your last days together with each other as much as possible. Re-assure her this will work out and that you two can be friends if she is broken up about it. And then just remain friends and live out your life as you would normally. Love always finds away, that is one thing I believe. Just hope it doesn't come to bite me in the ass. Best of luck padre.

Ozius

Ja'Deth Issar Ka'bael
I posted in a title changing thread.
posted 11-28-2001 05:55:40 PM
LD Relationships can work. If she doesn't want one, though, don't push it. Did it sound like she was unhappy in your relationship? Or is her leaving circumstantial?
Lyinar's sweetie and don't you forget it!*
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OtakuPenguin
Peels like a tangerine, but is juicy like an orange.
posted 11-28-2001 07:16:45 PM
Pretty circumstancial
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Lyinar Ka`Bael
Are you looking at my pine tree again?
posted 11-28-2001 07:37:49 PM
Best thing you can do is talk about all of it. Talk about the LD thing, the pros, cons, how plausible it will be, and if you think you can do it.

Sometimes it's not even an issue of being dedicated. You can be as dedicated as possible, but still not able to do an LD thing. It's not for everyone. Don't dismiss it outright, though. Discuss it first.


Lyinar Ka`Bael, Piney Fresh Druidess - Luclin

Josef
Smooth Operator
posted 11-28-2001 08:09:21 PM
quote:
We were all impressed when Skaw wrote:
Josef, bringer of years old news

We have living proof of LD Relationships going strong with Deth and Lyinar, and Me and Anne(even though it did end.)


Ho ho, the second attack on me in one day from you! You really don't like me much, do ya.

If there's more than 2 though, sorry... I'm not done reading all the threads yet.

Synjari
Warrior Princess
Cookie Seraphim!
posted 11-28-2001 08:14:06 PM
*hugs TOP* =/ Im sorry.. the rest are right.. its circumstancial so you two might wanna discuss it first before completely giving up on the LD option.. *smiles at KaLourin*
"Villiany wears many masks, none of which are more dangerous than virtue." - "Sleepy Hollow"
Majox
Pancake
posted 11-28-2001 08:44:42 PM
I currently have a LD realationship with my girlfriend. Its not that long, about 200 miles, but I still can't see her as much as I would like. Assuming the two of you want to keep it going I suggest that one of you get a cell phone with a bunch of night/weekend minutes and no extra long distance charge, assuming that this is fiscally possible. E-mail and IMs work, but they can't beat actually hearing each others voice. Cell phones are great because they often give you a buttload of minutes that most people don't use, and if you get the right plan you don't have to pay nasty long distance charges. If you want I can find out the plan that my gf has, it has 3000 night and weekend minutes for about 30 bucks a month. Without it we would still be together, but I think that it makes it a whole lot easier. I hope everything works out for you and your gf, whatever you decide to do.
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Bloodsage
Heart Attack
posted 11-28-2001 09:35:39 PM
If you do get into an LD relationship, you have nothing to fear from the evil "Dear John" letter!

If you get one, just post it hear, we'll all critique it for style, grammar, and content, and you can mail it back. Works like a charm, trust me.

To reign is worth ambition, though in Hell:
Better to reign in Hell than serve in Heaven.

--Satan, quoted by John Milton

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Condom Ninja El Supremo
posted 11-28-2001 11:51:32 PM
I've had words push me to near-suicidal depression... several times.

But as others pointed out before, she didn't say that anything is over. And right now, she needs you. Her family just went up in smoke. She's going to need someone to talk to and a should to lean on. My 'rents got divourced when I was 12 and if it wasn't for close friend and a couple of my cousins I'd have gone insane... Don't leave her, she hasn't left you yet.

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Pancake
posted 11-29-2001 09:00:29 AM
*raises 'er paw* Ahem..LD relationship here. *noddles. hugs da Jraik, then smackers his asser* Going on a year together in a mere couple of months..then couting down to us actually being together for good. If the high powers up there really do like me..everything'll work out..and I'll live through all the junkers going on right now in my life and make it to the day that's surely gonna save my very existance (and yes, I do see it as that. If you were in my shoes, you would too)
Im not NOT licking toads..
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Razor
posted 11-29-2001 09:34:42 AM
quote:
Bajah impressed everyone with:
My girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue with an email. We were together for nearly 4 years.

I know what's it like to have words rip out your heart.


Same here, but it only lasted 2 years.

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